My friend who is turning 40 has invited to a "all white attire party" and I don't think I can attend (person, narcissistic)
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Then take an old pair of shoes or sneaks, buy a can of white spray paint at the hardware store, and spray 'em blazing white. When it's over, throw the whole thing out.
So this is supposed to be a "Soiree Blanc"-style birthday??? How many MEN own white shoes and pants for an affair like this?
This decision was made with no regard to how it would affect his/her guests. People will have to go out and spend money just to attend a birthday party! I'm sorry, OP, but this just sounds absurd to me.
I think you should check out some thrift stores and hope for the best. And if you find something, I hope you at least have a good time.
The problem I am facing is that I only have a white shirt not the pants and shoes which I believe is expected for this type of party. On top of that he prefers everyone who he invited to the party to bring him MONEY as a gift. So it's no way I can go out and purchase shoes and pants and give him money for a gift when I still have to deal with my own financial situations. I still have to buy some summer clothes and finish paying off my credit card, go on dates, and save money.
So I am not sure how he will take me telling him I won't be able to make it but I just can't and was not expecting to be invited to a party where I have to buy clothes to attend and bring a gift. And let's say I do find whites shoes and pants to go with my shirt, that would be a outfit I would not be able to wear the rest of the summer which would not be wise spending. Anything I buy to wear in June I want to be able to wear in July and August too so it looks like I will have to miss his party which may end our friendship.
It won't end your "friendship" but I have a couple of suggestions!
Wear White to his party if you can and hand him a Envelope with a $100 Bill in "Monopoly" money! He will get the message!
Skip the party, or go and don't worry about wearing all white--the white shirt should be enough. Give him a $5 WaWa gift card. This is not anything that I would worry about. If he is a real friend, he will understand; and if you know any others who have been invited, ask them what they are doing.
Could you get a pair of white flip flops at the dollar store to cover the shoes part? And maybe white shorts? I thought they were always in style in the summer, but lord knows I'm way out of the fashion loop. If you can't ever wear them again, maybe the bleach advocates are right -- take a pair of light-colored pants you don't like very well any more, and bleach them white.
But if you have to look tres trendy all in white, I agree with those who say you should just tell your friend you won't be able to make it.
Had a surprise party for my dad's 60th. I had to find everyone on facebook. I said no gifts, cards if you wish. He still got a few gifts. For every gift he got there was a laugh of some sort. The gifts weren't worth anything, but they meant something. If a person ever gave me CASH for a birthday gift... well, they'd probably get weird looks from my real friends.
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