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My son had a bday party yesterday and I met a lot of parents. One of the mothers tracked me down to exchange phone numbers so we can have play dates. We are close in age. Here's the thing I never know if people are doing this just to be pleasant or if they actually want to stay in touch. I've had this happen with a mom I met on the playground and we exchanged numbers and I never heard from her, so two weeks later I contacted her and did a play date. Now we are good friends but I'm sure if I never contacted her we wouldn't talk again. what is the right etiquette with this? When people ask to exchange numbers do they really want to contact each other or is it just all talk? She was the only parent to track me down and exchange numbers but I still don't know if it would be awkward if I followed up. I'm always looking to make more friends but don't want to seem needy for actually following through.
What's the worst that could happen if you called and they were ambivalent about getting together? It doesn't make you seem needy to call someone who sought you out to give you their number. In fact, if someone tracked you down and said, "Here's my contact info. Get in touch," I think I'd probably take it to mean that they'd like me to use their contact info to get in touch with them.
You might be overthinking this. Go for it. That's how you get to know people, right?
What's the worst that could happen if you called and they were ambivalent about getting together? It doesn't make you seem needy to call someone who sought you out to give you their number. In fact, if someone tracked you down and said, "Here's my contact info. Get in touch," I think I'd probably take it to mean that they'd like me to use their contact info to get in touch with them.
You might be overthinking this. Go for it. That's how you get to know people, right?
The only way to find out is to ask. I would contact her causally about a week later and suggest something simple like the park. If she has many excuses for not committing or cancels/reschedules, I would probably leave it at that, but if you suggest something and she seems excited and wants to hang out then her interest is probably genuine.
It sounds like you really have nothing to lose, At best you make a new friend, Adults are often shy about making new friends I think. It's like asking someone out, People don't want to be disappointed. If she flakes just move on.
My son had a bday party yesterday and I met a lot of parents. One of the mothers tracked me down to exchange phone numbers so we can have play dates. We are close in age. Here's the thing I never know if people are doing this just to be pleasant or if they actually want to stay in touch. I've had this happen with a mom I met on the playground and we exchanged numbers and I never heard from her, so two weeks later I contacted her and did a play date. Now we are good friends but I'm sure if I never contacted her we wouldn't talk again. what is the right etiquette with this? When people ask to exchange numbers do they really want to contact each other or is it just all talk? She was the only parent to track me down and exchange numbers but I still don't know if it would be awkward if I followed up. I'm always looking to make more friends but don't want to seem needy for actually following through.
It sounds like she really wants to set something up. Don't assume that your kid's friend's moms will become your friends, though. Sometimes it just doesn't happen. I don't see any reason not to call, though.
I texted her today with small talk and she was very open and seems genuinely interested in a friendship and in the boys playing together. I never know how to act in these situations but so far it seems like the best thing is being proactive w/people and not being afraid to invite them
to hang out!
Thanks for the advice everyone. It's lonely and isolating being a mom at times lol!
If I'm just being polite and don't genuinely want to get together, I would never give you my number.
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Go for it. That's how you get to know people, right? 
