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View Poll Results: Would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up and touched you on the shoulder asking if every
Yes 49 51.04%
No 47 48.96%
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:21 PM
 
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If you were sitting down by yourself, would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up, tapped you on the shoulder, and asked if everything was OK?

Would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up and touched you on the shoulder asking if everything was OK?
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:27 PM
 
Location: here
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it depends on what I was doing. I was sitting on the floor of a busy airport having a complete meltdown/panic attack once, and no one said a word to me. I kind of wish someone had asked. I don't know why no one did. Maybe I'm good at pretending I'm ok, but I was on the floor, shaking and crying...
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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If you were sitting down by yourself, would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up, tapped you on the shoulder, and asked if everything was OK?

Would you find it odd if a complete stranger came up and touched you on the shoulder asking if everything was OK?
Yes, I would find it odd. But I suspect there is more to this story. Am I right?
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:52 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Yes, and honestly I would very rudely tell them to mind their own business.
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Old 09-19-2015, 06:54 PM
 
Location: 89052 & 75206
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Many years ago I was at a rest center along the highway where I was meeting my Ex to do the child exchange We lived about 60 miles apart at the time and my son was just 5 years old. So we'd meet at a 1/2 way highway rest stop for the 2x a month visitation my Ex had with my son. Anyway, they were about 20 minutes late (this was before cell phones, in 1980) and I was going into full scale panic because my Ex was a heavy drinker. A stranger approahed me to ask what was wrong; I guess my face was telling a story of despair.

So this stranger asked me if I was okay and was there anything I needed. Of course I just said I was waiting for someone who was late and a bit worried, but I was fine. The stranger kind of hung around a while and was there when they arrived.

I've thought about that over the years. And thought about how I really needed to get a grip when I am upset and not wear my heart on my sleeve.

Maybe you also could work on learning to contain yourself.......
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Old 09-19-2015, 10:25 PM
 
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Depends on the situation. I'm constantly impressed by the kindness people show to strangers. If I was showing signs of distress and someone approached me I would not be upset. Now if it was out of the blue and I was enjoying a warm sunny day on a park bench I might be a little weirded out.
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Old 09-19-2015, 11:19 PM
 
Location: Atlantis
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Yeah.

I have a 3ft rule. If anyone I don't know gets that close and touches me, they are one step closer to getting knocked out.
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Old 09-19-2015, 11:23 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Depends on how I'm acting, I suppose.

If I am just sitting there minding my own business reading a book or something, yes...that would be strange.

If I am crying...well, hell...it makes sense.

I am a little alarmed by the rude, violent reactions others would have to a concerned inquiry.
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Old 09-19-2015, 11:53 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I would think I must look ill for someone to ask me that.....but still hold my purse tightly..

A lady I knew had a woman come up to her in the store, telling her how cute her grandbaby was,
etc..keeping her distracted while another woman took her purse out of the cart...

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Old 09-20-2015, 02:24 AM
 
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Were you crying or something or fall down?
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