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Long story short, I have a few friends who are not my race, two of them I have been friends with since we were teenagers, and the other I have been friends with for almost 9 years.
They will sometimes casually say that they hate people of my race, or if I talk about someone who is of my race and they did something wrong or bad, they will say that's the reason why they hate people of my race...
It doesn't happen all the time, and a few times I have said something about it, but I can tell that it doesn't affect them. They seem to have these deeply held beliefs. I am not sure why they are friends with me and other people of my race, but then they will say that they hate us.
When I was in school days I had friends use expressions like, "Oh, but you are one of the good ones."
I even had a friend's mother once tell me that something like 95% of my race is evil, but I am lucky that my parents raised me to be good.
I didn't leave any friendships, though. I thought these were just people who had so little experience with anyone who was not like them that they were susceptible to stereotypes.
What planet are you on if you think people are only prejudiced against black and latinos? I'd give thesame advice to anyone. I can only use my lens as a black person, but my friends of other groups have experiejnced similar stuff. It is one of the things we talk about, casual racism against all sorts of people.
I don't think that. I think that people find it acceptable and not racist when it is some groups, and shockingly racist when it's another group.
I don't think that. I think that people find it acceptable and not racist when it is some groups, and shockingly racist when it's another group.
yes, right now the target is white people, and everybody is allowed to make nasty racist comments about and to white people with absoultey no repercussions or guilt. the logic is that ALL white people deserve it because SOME white people were/are racist in the past and present.
The problem with this is that it perpetuates racism. It causes hostility between groups, and divides people. When will it end?
The real question is why are you still friends with them. I do not think people who are your real friend would be talking like this....A real friend would not make you feel badly about your own race...Find new friends. It is there problem.....
Long story short, I have a few friends who are not my race, two of them I have been friends with since we were teenagers, and the other I have been friends with for almost 9 years.
They will sometimes casually say that they hate people of my race, or if I talk about someone who is of my race and they did something wrong or bad, they will say that's the reason why they hate people of my race...
It doesn't happen all the time, and a few times I have said something about it, but I can tell that it doesn't affect them. They seem to have these deeply held beliefs. I am not sure why they are friends with me and other people of my race, but then they will say that they hate us.
Advice?
Ask them, "Do you realize I am standing here? Why are you friends with me?"
It could open up some useful dialogue and teach them something. If not, then walk away.
Ask them, "Do you realize I am standing here? Why are you friends with me?"
It could open up some useful dialogue and teach them something. If not, then walk away.
OP you have no obligation to be a martyr for race relations. It is not your problem, it is your friends' and you do not need to be responsible for their enlightenment.
They will sometimes casually say that they hate people of my race, or if I talk about someone who is of my race and they did something wrong or bad, they will say that's the reason why they hate people of my race...
How in the world do you call these people friends? Dump the assclowns.
Over the Presidential election of 2012, a few people on facebook made some bigoted posts, particularly racial slights towards the President. I promptly unfriended said persons. The way I see it, if someone is going to be that disrespectful, then what good are they to me? That is one question to ask.
I unfriended a lot of people over the last Presidential elections and since. I am white but will not tolerate hate, racism, bigotry, etc., in my life. My true friends know my ideals and that I do my best to love everyone regardless of race or sexual preference.
My daughter brought a friend to eat out with us one night. We got to talking about our favorite bar we used to go to to play trivia, and it recently closed. This girl was sitting across from me and she said, "It's because of all the coons."
I looked at her, and then looked at everyone else who was a shocked as I was. I said, "You'd think a pest control company could rid them of a few raccoons, that's what you meant, right?" And she looked at me and said, "No, the ******s, the coons."
I threw a couple twenties on the table to cover mine & my husband's meals, and we got up. I looked at my daughter and said, "You call this white trash your friend? You pay for her dinner."
But sorry white people, just because you like Jay-Z, Beyoncé and Kanye doesn't mean you can go around yelling n's in Paris. And please stop pretending you don't know that one generation ago your family was complaining about the n-words moving into the neighborhood.
Do us white people a favor and stop lumping all of us into your racist categories. My parents did not say the N word and I never saw racism or bigotry until I moved to the hellish state of Georgia. If I were like you, I guess I would say that's how all the black people are around here.
Well I'm not like that. If you are getting racism from whites, it's because you are breeding it with your own attitude towards whites.
Last edited by convextech; 09-28-2015 at 08:50 AM..
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