Should I be upset? (jealous, boyfriend, person, sister)
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I recently applied for a job opening and mentioned it to a "friend" of mine.
This "friend" of mine told her sister's boyfriend to apply for the same job I was applying for.
She apologized profusely and wanted to make up because she felt bad for telling her sister's boyfriend to compete with me.
I told her that I'll just take a moment to think about it before we talk again. I really don't know how I feel about it, to be honest.
I am annoyed because:
She only found out about this position because I mentioned it to her and she used the information to benefit her sister's boyfriend, at the detriment of me. I am aware there will be competition, nonetheless, with or without him, but I am disappointed she'd do that.
I am looking the other way because:
She was honest about what she did and she probably knew she did something potentially offensive because she admitted to it without me even asking. I appreciate honesty.
We have had good times together and she's an otherwise okay friend.
I don't know. I feel like I have a bone stuck in my throat and I don't know what to think or say. I've asked other friends of mine what they'd feel in such a situation (without revealing who it is) and some say it's a shady action for her to do and not to talk for a while, whilst others say, let it go and move on.
I'm generally depressed about a variety of things in my life right now and this is one of the things that are on my mind at the moment.
Not even her own boyfriend, her sister's boyfriend is more important to this "okay" friend than you. I would most definitely be upset. And if it were me, she would instantly go from an "okay" friend to an ex-friend.
It is annoying but you can't do anything about it now. Let it be a lesson learnt that if you want something for yourself, don't go telling others about it. Good luck - I hope you get the job.
It is annoying but you can't do anything about it now. Let it be a lesson learnt that if you want something for yourself, don't go telling others about it. Good luck - I hope you get the job.
This is what I also believe. Your friend did 'fess up and I think you should be as annoyed with yourself as with her. If you are in competition for something you really care about, keep your cards close to your chest. Only discuss the specifics of your job search on a need to know basis. For example, if you are interviewing for a job and have been asked back, you should be developing a list of references. You should be asking those on your list for permission to provide contact information and even let them know they may possibly hear from XYZ Corp. Otherwise, keep your lips zipped.
I recently applied for a job opening and mentioned it to a "friend" of mine.
This "friend" of mine told her sister's boyfriend to apply for the same job I was applying for.
She apologized profusely and wanted to make up because she felt bad for telling her sister's boyfriend to compete with me.
I told her that I'll just take a moment to think about it before we talk again. I really don't know how I feel about it, to be honest.
I am annoyed because:
She only found out about this position because I mentioned it to her and she used the information to benefit her sister's boyfriend, at the detriment of me. I am aware there will be competition, nonetheless, with or without him, but I am disappointed she'd do that.
I am looking the other way because:
She was honest about what she did and she probably knew she did something potentially offensive because she admitted to it without me even asking. I appreciate honesty.
We have had good times together and she's an otherwise okay friend.
I don't know. I feel like I have a bone stuck in my throat and I don't know what to think or say. I've asked other friends of mine what they'd feel in such a situation (without revealing who it is) and some say it's a shady action for her to do and not to talk for a while, whilst others say, let it go and move on.
I'm generally depressed about a variety of things in my life right now and this is one of the things that are on my mind at the moment.
Would you be upset? Thanks
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No need to waste your energy being upset, what's done is done . Just let this be a life lesson on not telling all of your business to your friends. Next time wait until after the fact to tell them about what you are doing or what you are up to. I don't believe in telling friends or people in general about every little personal things I'm working on until after I'm done. People don't always wish you well and jealous friends or people will try to undermine what you are trying to do. Unless I needed my friends help, I would have never said anything until I know I had that job in the bag.
What mistake?
Who is to say the other person would not have found out about the job somewhere else?
When did open positions become the sole property of one who is applying for that position?
To be fair I assume you will be competing with others for the job anyway?
I wouldn't get too upset myself mate
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