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Doesn't seem like a biggie. Maybe her feet hurt. Maybe she's tired. Maybe she gets sick of having to walk very where.
Then maybe she should buy her own car.
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Originally Posted by yandex
I know the OP isn't obligated. That isn't my point. I don't understand what the objection is to doing something nice for someone at no expense (time, energy, gas, etc) to yourself.
Is there no expense to owning a car? Let's see, the cost of buying it, the cost of insuring it, the cost of registering it, the cost of gas, the cost of maintenance......
all that this co-worker expects to get the benefits of - for free.
If somebody wants the benefits of car ownership, then they need to pay for it. Or take the bus, or pay for a taxi, or walk. It's not the responsibility of the OP, who pays for everything that's involved in car ownership, to make life easier for this person, who is also employed, yet chooses not to budget for a car.
I just don't see anything wrong with walking 10 minutes. I walk much longer distance than that even though I have car.(I'm very active).I would understand if it was a case of emergency or if she was stranded. I used to walk a 15 minute walk every Sunday morning to the nearest buss station in winter time, when it was -35
It just annoys me when someone just want a ride just because they don't want to walk lol. I just hate driving people in general unless in emergency or occasional situation
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Originally Posted by yandex
Like I said before, it may be painful to her, and you just don't know it. Sure, she walks other places, probably because she has to. But it would be nice if she had a way to lessen the amount she has to walk, even if just by 10 minutes.
If that's the only reason you've got, then yes, I think you're being petty.
I have severe rheumatoid arthritis but on my job I never let anyone know that walking is difficult for me. I may be wincing in pain & need to take pain pills to get through the day and occasionally even start to tear up or even start to actually cry from the pain in the privacy of a bathroom stall or in an empty room but I never let anyone know how difficult it is for me.
BTW, many nights, after a long day of work, I have to literarily crawl up the stairs on my hands and knees or sort of slither up like a snake because I am unable to walk those extra few steps in my home to get to my bedroom to go to bed.
So do not assume that because you are able to walk an extra 10 minutes everyone else is able to do that. Or because she "walks at work" walking is easy or painless for her.
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If you don't want to give her a ride don't give her a ride but do not try to justify it because you don't "see anything wrong with walking an extra 10 minutes".
PS. Please remember your actions and your attitude if something happens to you in the future and you need a little bit of extra help & compassion from a co-worker or friend.
Karma is a b****, so I wouldn't be surprised if sometime in the future, when you need a little help or kindness, someone like you turns you down.
Last edited by germaine2626; 10-25-2015 at 07:01 AM..
I just don't see anything wrong with walking 10 minutes. I walk much longer distance than that even though I have car.(I'm very active).I would understand if it was a case of emergency or if she was stranded. I used to walk a 15 minute walk every Sunday morning to the nearest buss station in winter time, when it was -35
It just annoys me when someone just want a ride just because they don't want to walk lol. I just hate driving people in general unless in emergency or occasional situation
And my grandmother walked to school barefoot in the snow. You do not want to give someone a ride when it is on your way. Ok! Your car, your time, your response to your coworker. Are you petty? In my eyes absolutely. You may need someone's help one day be it at work or in your personal live.
I remember when I was in college. No car, and never had hopes of having a car. My college was on a very large campus and a bit isolated if you wanted to do any interesting "off campus" stuff.
Had two good friends (roomates Crystal and Amy) who lived on my dorm floor. Crystal had a car, Amy didn't. Crystal strongly disliked giving people rides anywhere, even if it was on her way, and never helped with the big things (ex. grocery shopping, pick up from airport). No excuses. Just said "no". Amy and I were a bit ?jealous, resentful. We were kids. Amy said that if she had a car, she would definitely be more helpful.
Jump ahead. Amy got a boyfriend... and soon after, her own car. But she hid it from her "friends" for almost 1 year.
Once she had a car, she realized she didn't want to give people rides anywhere either. Except her boyfriend, I guess!
And my grandmother walked to school barefoot in the snow. You do not want to give someone a ride when it is on your way. Ok! Your car, your time, your response to your coworker. Are you petty? In my eyes absolutely. You may need someone's help one day be it at work or in your personal live.
Was thinking the same thing with many posters here. Good grief wouldnt count on them for much of anything. Not like the driver cant say no.
And my grandmother walked to school barefoot in the snow. You do not want to give someone a ride when it is on your way. Ok! Your car, your time, your response to your coworker. Are you petty? In my eyes absolutely. You may need someone's help one day be it at work or in your personal live.
Seriously...every time I visit the non-romantic relationships forum, I find myself shaking my head in disbelief. Sure, this woman could walk. That isn't the point. The point is...uhhh...why not just do something nice for someone? It's painfully easy. Doing simple favors for people isn't enabling and asking for simple favors isn't freeloading. Every detail of it doesn't need to be analyzed and overthought.
I have severe rheumatoid arthritis but on my job I never let anyone know that walking is difficult for me. I may be wincing in pain & need to take pain pills to get through the day and occasionally even start to tear up or even start to actually cry from the pain in the privacy of a bathroom stall or in an empty room but I never let anyone know how difficult it is for me.
BTW, many nights, after a long day of work, I have to literarily crawl up the stairs on my hands and knees or sort of slither up like a snake because I am unable to walk those extra few steps in my home to get to my bedroom to go to bed.
So do not assume that because you are able to walk an extra 10 minutes everyone else is able to do that. Or because she "walks at work" walking is easy or painless for her.
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If you don't want to give her a ride don't give her a ride but do not try to justify it because you don't "see anything wrong with walking an extra 10 minutes".
PS. Please remember your actions and your attitude if something happens to you in the future and you need a little bit of extra help & compassion from a co-worker or friend.
Karma is a b****, so I wouldn't be surprised if sometime in the future, when you need a little help or kindness, someone like you turns you down.
Just to let you know, my job is very physical not a desk job.We're on our feet the whole day.She has no pain that I know of.
I didn't always have car all my adult life.I had to walk everywhere and relay on public transportion.I had people who offered me a ride on occassion but I never once ask for a ride or expect anyone to drive me.There is difference being a need for ride in emergency situations than just wanting a ride on regular basis because you don't want to walk that extra 10 minutes. Like really?
There are other ways to get around without a car, walking, public transportion , taxi etc.
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