People who never write back... (member, Christmas, messages, conversation)

[Catbelle]

I find this very annoying:

I have friends in other cities or even in other countries, when I was teenager I remember we used to send letter or christmas cards, some sms in mobile phones, etc communication was more difficult than today but I remember I used to receive letter in my mailbox from time to time.

Nowadays we have whatsapp, facebook, viber or whatever we use and there are old friends who NEVER reply messages or the ones who can keep a normal conversation.

As we grow up it is normal to see our friends or just people we like less often than we used to do, I love writing some friends and ask: how is life? blabla, I could be speaking for hours, but some people are really unable to write further than "hi" "all fine" others just nothing. It is not necessary to write back right now, and it takes only... some seconds. In the past with letters or email we needed at least half an hour.

What do you think about this? Are technology making people less social even with more facilities?

[Gypsy-Moth]

Not everyone enjoys writing. Many people let friendships go after there is some geographical distance between you and won't write or stay in touch in any form. People in the U.S. don't value friendships that much. It's just the way it is.

There are plenty of more important things to be annoyed about. It's disappointing, but better to let it go. If you really want to write, there are places online where you can find pen pals.

[Basiliximab]

Originally Posted by Catbelle

I find this very annoying:

I have friends in other cities or even in other countries, when I was teenager I remember we used to send letter or christmas cards, some sms in mobile phones, etc communication was more difficult than today but I remember I used to receive letter in my mailbox from time to time.

Nowadays we have whatsapp, facebook, viber or whatever we use and there are old friends who NEVER reply messages or the ones who can keep a normal conversation.

As we grow up it is normal to see our friends or just people we like less often than we used to do, I love writing some friends and ask: how is life? blabla, I could be speaking for hours, but some people are really unable to write further than "hi" "all fine" others just nothing. It is not necessary to write back right now, and it takes only... some seconds. In the past with letters or email we needed at least half an hour.

Give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe life got in the way. If you care about them as a friend, cover their faults. Maybe one day they will get back to you and let you know what was the problem, or they may not ever; but how can you know what they have been going through? I know some people are very bad at time management and even getting back to a text can be overlooked, such as if it is received at work but can't reply to it at that time; so, it gets left in the "in box" and just keeps getting looked over/forgotten about later (also some people are not very quick at texting and it actually can take up a lot of time).

[ellenrr]

I think maintaining friendships takes a lot of energy.

these days - with all the digital devices, all the entertainment options, all the news so that if we wish, we can know what is happening in every corner of the world, -
maybe peoples' energies are dissipated and that is why they do not respond.

As another poster said, "Life gets in the way". for example, I recently emailed someone who I hope will become a friend, and she got back to me very quickly with a very nice response.
BUT
several months ago, I had emailed her, and she never got back to me -- I had decided to let it go, thinking that for whatever reason she did not wish to become friendly.

I used to think, "It must be me", but the more I read around about people and relationships, I think it is how the world is.

So I would say - try not to draw a hasty conclusion, but if in fact they don't get back to you, try to move on, and find someone who will be more responsive.