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I had told him back on 9/9 that my birthday was coming up October 5 and he made like he would try to make it out. Well Oct 5 came and went and I didn't hear a word from him. I call him between 10/7 and 10/11. I called numerous times in that time period and he didn't answer my calls. I was irritated on 10/11 after days of calling and getting no answer. I left him a message on 10/11 and I threw up some of the things I have done for him during are friendship out of frustration. I am sad to report that I did finally get a call back on 10/11 after leaving that message. When he called back we spoke for an hour and unfortunately the call ended very badly.
Should I give details of the call when he called back?
You have driven this person away by being too needy. He may have been a friend at one time, but you made it too difficult for him to continue.
Clearly you felt like he should have been the one to plan your birthday celebration. Clearly, he felt like he might go along with whatever was planned. You didn't plan anything or tell him what the plans were so he could decide if he wanted to go. Then you called and told him off for not going out with you. Why would he want to continue this relationship?
Does not sound like a friendship. Was not necessary to call for days after receiving no response the first or second time. I am not sure how long you have been friends but unfortunalty sometimes friendships, Even long term ones fade for various reasons. Best to move on, focus on other friends or make new ones carefully if you want new ones. Make sure trust is give and take. As we get older we lose people, friendships fade, people die, money comes and goes, Jobs come and go etc. Best to be positive and more forward if something is not working after numerous tries.
So yes, OP, you should give the details of the call. To a therapist. It's time.
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