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A nice man in our neighborhood seems to be alone quite often. I see him in public places on a regular basis and he is mostly alone. He walks around the neighborhood and is is alone and he lives by himself. My kids are always talking about him. They say he must be some type of weirdo because he is alone in public. I asked my son about that and they said that in school if you are seen all alone, you are viewed as a weirdo.
Do you think that people who are soon mostly alone in the adult world are viewed that way too? You may enjoy or like being alone but people assume something in wrong with you.
Teaching opportuity for you with your son. He should reach out to the kids who are alone or understsnd that maybe they just like being alone. Tell him it's fine to be alone, go to movies alone, travel alone, etc. I don't think it's good to be alone all the time but think it's great once in a while. But why are your kids always talking about him? Seems weird they would even notice him since kids are usually self-absorbed. Maybe they should say hi once in a while
Agree. Maybe also point of how people who go out and do things alone are viewed by many as confident people. If a person is eating alone in a restaurant, some might think "what a loser" or "poor lonely guy" but it could also be "wow, she's a strong self-confident person who doesn't always have to be with others."
A lot of extravert-bias beliefs are developed in childhood when we see how adults and other kids respond to people who like being alone sometimes.
If the kid is an introvert, this will help him understand that he'd good just the way he is, and if he's an extravert, he'll learn to have different thoughts about introverted kids when he sees them alone.
Why are your kids talking about this man behind his back? Other than being alone (which, BTW, is not a sign of weirdness), has this man exhibited any signs of odd behavior or demeanor that would indicate that he bears watching?
As Clarksvillemom said, this is a good opportunity to teach your son about gossip and hurtful words and unwarranted assumptions. And it would be interesting to know why your son seems so curious about this man.
Teaching opportuity for you with your son. He should reach out to the kids who are alone or understsnd that maybe they just like being alone. Tell him it's fine to be alone, go to movies alone, travel alone, etc. I don't think it's good to be alone all the time but think it's great once in a while. But why are your kids always talking about him? Seems weird they would even notice him since kids are usually self-absorbed. Maybe they should say hi once in a while
Teaching opportuity for you with your son. He should reach out to the kids who are alone or understsnd that maybe they just like being alone. Tell him it's fine to be alone, go to movies alone, travel alone, etc. I don't think it's good to be alone all the time but think it's great once in a while. But why are your kids always talking about him? Seems weird they would even notice him since kids are usually self-absorbed. Maybe they should say hi once in a while
Agree!
I also wanted to add that we know nothing about other peoples lives.
He could be alone all the time because he lost his wife, GF, or just prefers to be "alone." Perhaps he doesn't have any family who lives close by, or any at all.
Its so easy for others to "point fingers" and whisper behind their back because they are alone all the time, or maybe because they walk with a limp.
Not nice to judge others, when you don't know the story!! >
A nice man in our neighborhood seems to be alone quite often. I see him in public places on a regular basis and he is mostly alone. He walks around the neighborhood and is is alone and he lives by himself. My kids are always talking about him. They say he must be some type of weirdo because he is alone in public. I asked my son about that and they said that in school if you are seen all alone, you are viewed as a weirdo.
Do you think that people who are soon mostly alone in the adult world are viewed that way too? You may enjoy or like being alone but people assume something in wrong with you.
Do you think that people who are soon mostly alone in the adult world are viewed that way too? You may enjoy or like being alone but people assume something in wrong with you.
I think society in general has conditioned people to think that if a person is usually alone then there must be "something wrong" with that person. In reality, people should just learn to mind their own business. A person might simply enjoy doing things alone, or they may not have friends for whatever the reason. But regardless, it's not anybody's place or business to concern themselves about that.
A nice man in our neighborhood seems to be alone quite often. I see him in public places on a regular basis and he is mostly alone. He walks around the neighborhood and is is alone and he lives by himself. My kids are always talking about him. They say he must be some type of weirdo because he is alone in public. I asked my son about that and they said that in school if you are seen all alone, you are viewed as a weirdo.
Do you think that people who are soon mostly alone in the adult world are viewed that way too? You may enjoy or like being alone but people assume something in wrong with you.
How VERY unusual for children to even notice adults, much less comment on them.
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