Friends without Benefits? (girlfriend, husband, female, male)
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this is my first post here. are there men in my age group (late 20's to early 40's) looking to just have friendships with women? I am not looking to go on dates or have sex, but would like a male friend to do activities with. I am 35 and autistic. My only friend is female and married with 2 kids. She said men are looking for women they can have intimate relations with and not friendships. I do not have dating experience or sex experience. Advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
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Hi,
Gay men maybe. You can have a lot of fun hanging out with a gay guy. Some gay guys also tend to be really good with advice as far as clothes and etiquette and stuff like that.
Of course, you have to be friends before developing a deeper relationship; but, I don't think any or many men go into relationships with women without getting with the girl in the back of their mind.
My husband once said to me - I've never been friends with a woman, at least one I didn't want sex from. I believe him.
All this aside - do not give yourself away to the first guy that says, "I love you, or compliments you." Make them work for the ultimate reward from you. Virginity is a very special thing.
Best wishes!
Last edited by ConeyGirl52; 03-19-2016 at 01:53 PM..
Go after gay men
Not many men want to settle a friendship with a woman
Most of them will be seeking a relationship or expect something to happen out of it
There's a really nice community at Wrong Planet. I'll bet people there would have some ideas for you.
I would say this too. I'm sure that there are support groups and the like for people with Autism. I hope that the OP finds people to be friends with. Life is hard and lonely and we all need to have people in our lives.
That is coming from a self proclaim introvert/loner/misanthrope.
this is my first post here. are there men in my age group (late 20's to early 40's) looking to just have friendships with women? I am not looking to go on dates or have sex, but would like a male friend to do activities with. I am 35 and autistic. My only friend is female and married with 2 kids. She said men are looking for women they can have intimate relations with and not friendships. I do not have dating experience or sex experience. Advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
It would be helpful IF you want advice to actually identify yourself as either Gay, or inexperienced, shy, or what??
First off..your friend saying men are looking for sex mainly/mostly in relationships..is actually fairly correct, however NOT necessarily correct when you meet a nice person who (her) accepts you for who you are & has initially no agenda...IF you work or nurture that..TRUST will be earned...Trust is never automatic ( or it shouldn't be) BTW!!
Believe me..most women with any self-respect don't waste their time on seeking the "Boy Toy" type relationship....maybe it's difficult for you to understand ..but interacting with people in general, respectful interactions often leads to wonderful relationships..
Women are far more ( except for those baseless and just seeking instant gratification types who are easily identified with experience) capable to nurturing open honest relationships generally. Be yourself..don't give or talk too much about YOURSELF with anybody until you have gained the sense of trust..GUT usually tells you IF anyone is BS'ing ..
Just a side note...Whether workplace, society, or family reunions when you meet all sorts of folks you have never met before...IF you allow yourself to just be YOU and above all use your ears..listen to what they say, how they say it.. Attitude ( alcohol often unleashes their negatives BTW) and while your earn their trust..you also learn to trust others, be it male or female!!
Best advice I could give not knowing details...best of luck tho
this is my first post here. are there men in my age group (late 20's to early 40's) looking to just have friendships with women? I am not looking to go on dates or have sex, but would like a male friend to do activities with. I am 35 and autistic. My only friend is female and married with 2 kids. She said men are looking for women they can have intimate relations with and not friendships. I do not have dating experience or sex experience. Advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
You're better off being friends with women.
What activities are you into that you need a man that a woman couldn't engage in?
Speaking from experience....most men aren't looking for a platonic friendship with a woman. I have a FEW male friends that are adamant about maintaining a friendship with me, but they still admitted to having an interest.
I don't think you should focus so much on gender but rather just forming friendships with people in general, male and female. I agree with the posters above who suggest befriending people similar to you.
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