What should I take from this "confrontation"? (person, dysfunctional, toxic) - Non-Romantic Relationships -Issues with friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances - City-Data Forum

heythere999 · 03-15-2016, 02:26 AM

Long story short, a "friend" and I have had an incredibly dysfunctional relationship for a couple of years now. We have had numerous arguments and periods of not talking to each other, he tried to ruin my life and in the end it backfired on him. He would tell me that I misinterpret everything etc etc

But then we talked last week, and it was for about an hour long. He interjected, once, to say that I was right about something really briefly (and it was something he gave me sooo much ****) for. But for the rest of the time, I was talking. And I was blunt, and he wouldn't say anything. He would just gulp. Over, and over, and over again. I noticed it was constant gulping. And he didn't defend himself.

Maybe I'm reading into it too much, but... What do I take from that?

kevxu · 03-15-2016, 03:21 AM

Doesn't sound like you think he is a friend at all. Why are you wasting your time and his with such juvenile nonsense?

leadingedge04 · 03-15-2016, 03:21 AM

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What do I take from that?

Get better "friends".

carnivalday · 03-15-2016, 04:16 AM

That he's sick of arguing with you.

MIKEETC · 03-15-2016, 05:04 AM

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Originally Posted by heythere999

...What do I take from that?

He realized that you and him have an incredibly dysfunctional relationship.

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BirdieBelle · 03-15-2016, 05:51 AM

At this point, I really have to wonder what you gain from posting here about this guy.

You don't seem to take any of the advice offered.

Seriously, WTF?? You gave him a stern talking-to for an hour??? Who does that? GIVE IT UP already.

Tahirthegreat · 03-15-2016, 06:28 AM

He doesnt want to argue anymore. Let him be.

PhureeKeeper · 03-15-2016, 07:38 AM

Constant gulping? Maybe he has acid reflux or dysphasia.

convextech · 03-15-2016, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by heythere999

Long story short, a "friend" and I have had an incredibly dysfunctional relationship for a couple of years now.

What part of this is fun? Why bother with this person at all?

BirdieBelle · 03-15-2016, 08:28 AM

I mean, we KNOW the underlying reason you keep interacting with this obviously toxic person.

ThE OP is bi, and in another thread many posters asserted that behaviors of this friend as described by the OP SOUNDED like flirting, or at least not hetero.

So, being that it apparently is very difficult for a bi man who has just come out to find a "connection," the OP KEEPS ON interacting with this guy, even though common sense would advise otherwise.