what's with our hugging culture? And is it rude to offer a handshake when offered a hug? (female, males)
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Im not the type that try to shake people's hands unless it's formal or business
I only like hugs from young pretty ladies
my family never says stuff like "I love you" that sounds silly to say that stuff to a relative
to me only a boyfriend / girlfriend or husband & wife say stuff like that
do you mind telling me your age? i find it very interesting that you hug only young pretty ladies. I see this a lot, actually, but i've never heard anyone so bluntly admit it. Hugging is, to young men (or even old men) solely to feel young women's bodies, and often is their only chance to do so. Don't take this personally, buddy. I am only trying to find truth about the human male.
I love hugs and cuddling and stuff, but i want to reserve that stuff for those who i really am intimate with. Often times when i am with a friend or something, and they bump into a friend of theirs, then introduce me, and already they want to give me a hug. I don't feel comfortable with that. Also, sometimes my mom's friends act too friendly too soon - offering hugs after just seeing me once or twice. What's up with our hugging culture? hugs should be reserved for those you feel you love, not strangers. I feel very uncomfortable hugging strangers.
Is it rude to extend my hand, signaling an offer for a handshake when offered a hug from someone i'm rather unfamiliar with?
Either offer a handshake or, easily enough, take a couple steps back from the hugger.
I have a pet peeve. When women in power greet their male counterparts with hugs. Or when a male in power automatically hugs women without asking for permission.
ok calm down, guys. A hug when greeting u is almost ALWAYS non-sexual, so don't get urselves all excited and thirsty. How desperate! ew.
Um, sometimes it's not. I've had guys I've met never lift their eyes and their hands are always ready to reach out and touch someone. Sometimes I want to tap them on the head and go, "Yoohoo, I'm up here!"
I love hugs and getting hugs from everyone. I feel like it makes people much Closer when greeting, as opposed to a handshake which feels really cold and unfriendly sometimes! Besided, giving a handshake to a girl or a friend you're close with? Awwwkward! Ugh hugs are much better for this, in fact in some countries its a hug and many kisses on the cheek...in russian culture if you're leaving the house for a trip you're gonna get like a thousand cheek kisses lol
I love hugs and cuddling and stuff, but i want to reserve that stuff for those who i really am intimate with. Often times when i am with a friend or something, and they bump into a friend of theirs, then introduce me, and already they want to give me a hug. I don't feel comfortable with that. Also, sometimes my mom's friends act too friendly too soon - offering hugs after just seeing me once or twice. What's up with our hugging culture? hugs should be reserved for those you feel you love, not strangers. I feel very uncomfortable hugging strangers.
Is it rude to extend my hand, signaling an offer for a handshake when offered a hug from someone i'm rather unfamiliar with?
I'm very old fashioned with this. I agree with you. The "hugging culture" is newish. It was not that common even 20 years ago. Well, at least not where I live. I don't like hugging people who are actually strangers or whom I barely know. I do extend my hand for a handskakes.
I also can't stand people calling me by my first name almost immediately upon meeting them. For me it's rude and not polite.
However once I know you I'm okay with being a little more affectionate.
Don't come down south, then. We hug everybody! Maybe not people we just met, but definitely people we already know.
If you'd prefer to shake than hug, you'll have to be quick on the draw when you find yourself meeting people. If someone is already coming toward you with open arms, then yes, offering a handshake "instead" could be perceived as a rejection.
Standing a step or two back farther than you might normally will add a "barrier."
I've been to Alabama a bunch of times and I didn't notice this so much there.
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ok calm down, guys. A hug when greeting u is almost ALWAYS non-sexual, so don't get urselves all excited and thirsty. How desperate! ew.
