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The parents purposely kept us apart. We would ask to get together with each other and they would never tell the other about the invites.
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Originally Posted by 926MPV
I want to know the why? Why would they do that? I need to understand. To be so deceitful, how can we move forward?
Frankly, if you had a phone and your sister had a phone why should the invitations come through your parents? Even if there were extenuating circumstances like your sister is deaf and did not use the phone you could have communicated with letters or on the computer.
Maybe your parents were, or are, self-centered jerks who felt that if they did not make the plans then the plans were not important?
Maybe there was a big family secret that they did not want find out about?
Maybe they were worried that you would "compare notes" on something and find out that they lied to both of you? (such as they gave you a new car when you went to college but lied and told your sister that they could not afford a car for her or you, or they are giving her money and not you)
Maybe they felt that you were both adults that you should make your own arrangements?
They are your parents so YOU need to ask them why they did not tell you about the invitations.
Last edited by germaine2626; 04-07-2016 at 12:35 PM..
OP - The only way you might ever find out is by getting everyone together to see how it plays out. I would invite the sister and her family and THEN in-laws to your house. "Mom/Dad, Sis and the crew are coming over on Saturday for a cook out. Do you want to come?" Go from there. I personally would like to know the response to the invite, if the in laws attempt to make sure it doesn't happen some way, if they show up when they can't stop it and how the event goes. Seriously.
We moved within a couple of hours to my inlaws last fall. Previously we were 8 hours away, and rarely saw them. A few weeks ago my FIL told my DH that they weren't going to have him and his sister together in their house. We were baffled. They claimed having us together was stressful. We decided to wait it out to see how their conversation went down with his sister. She emailed him yesterday just as confused as us. They have never had an issue with us, nor us with them. DH emailed her saying the same. She emailed again today and had come to the realization they have been keeping us apart for 17 years!
What? Why? Explain this please??!!
I'm confused by your math here. You just moved last fall. Where does 17 years come from?
I'm also curious how close(proximity) you are to your SIL? Looks to be a lot of e mails and no talk. Perhaps she does have an issue with you and your husband. Maybe she thinks you're too dramatic.
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