How to end a relationship w/a long distance FRIEND? (person, relatives)
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Just to be clear - this is just a friend of the same sex, nothing romantic. She lives in WA and I am in Fla, but we managed to stay friends over the years, although we have never met (we met online through our jobs). I feel the relationship has run it's course. It is usually she who will call or email. She is happily married, so it's not like she is all alone and has no one.
Anyways, what do I do? I don't want this to be too lengthy, but we are just very different people and we will never see each other (I don't fly and apparently she is not willing to come here, even when I have offered to pay).
Well, if she's that bad of a pen pal, and you don't want to keep in touch for professional reasons, then you can elect not to answer emails or phone calls, or you can just tell her that you won't be in contact in the future. I suppose you could try to arrange something more dramatic, but it seems pretty straightforward.
Well, if she's that bad of a pen pal, and you don't want to keep in touch for professional reasons, then you can elect not to answer emails or phone calls, or you can just tell her that you won't be in contact in the future. I suppose you could try to arrange something more dramatic, but it seems pretty straightforward.
Our communications are at home - I know longer work for that company. I tried ignoring emails for a few days and then she said she was getting worried and wished she had a relatives phone number so she could see if I wasn't dead. Then she sent a cute "I miss you" kitten card. At that point I responded and just said I had been busy.
IDK... I would not even consider someone I never met a friend.
I would tell her there will be no future contact, that there is no longer work to discuss (since you do not work for the same company any more).
Ignoring a problem does not make it go away....
IDK... I would not even consider someone I never met a friend.
I would tell her there will be no future contact, that there is no longer work to discuss (since you do not work for the same company any more).
Ignoring a problem does not make it go away....
Our conversations have been on a personal level, unwork related in recent years. But nonetheless, I suppose you are right.
[quote=Pitt Chick;43783080]IDK... I would not even consider someone I never met a friend. QUOTE]
I have a lot of friends across the US and Canada that I've never met. But, like I said, they're still friends. Where is it written that you have to meet them in person?
Eeko, on your pole, I chose continue the banter. But let the correspondence take a while. When she writes, take 2 or 3 weeks to answer, even email. "Sorry I haven't written sooner but my job (kids, husband, etc.) has been driving me crazy and I haven't had any "me" time in a while.
Then take even longer to answer her next correspondence. When she calls, you have caller ID don't you? After a few unanswered calls and emails, surely she would get the hint.
I have a lot of friends across the US and Canada that I've never met. But, like I said, they're still friends. Where is it written that you have to meet them in person?
What?
I never said anything was written about that; I never even said that everyone should feel the same.
I DID say "I would not even consider someone I never met a friend." That is my personal opinion... not some universal rule.
Friends to me (stressing that so there is no confusion!) are people who if you call them asking them to come, they come. The rest are acquaintances.
YMMV.
IDK... I would not even consider someone I never met a friend. QUOTE]
I have a lot of friends across the US and Canada that I've never met. But, like I said, they're still friends. Where is it written that you have to meet them in person?
Eeko, on your pole, I chose continue the banter. But let the correspondence take a while. When she writes, take 2 or 3 weeks to answer, even email. "Sorry I haven't written sooner but my job (kids, husband, etc.) has been driving me crazy and I haven't had any "me" time in a while.
Then take even longer to answer her next correspondence. When she calls, you have caller ID don't you? After a few unanswered calls and emails, surely she would get the hint.
Good luck!
I was just reading some articles and the consensus seems to be, that unless some betrayal or mistreatment was involved (which is not the case here, although she is fairly judgmental), to let it "die a natural death". Pretty much what you suggested.
Eeko - if you are like a lot of people you don't want to hurt her feelings. I would just space out the contact you have with her further and further and then when she asks you what is up you just tell her you feel the friendship has run its course.
Eeko - if you are like a lot of people you don't want to hurt her feelings. I would just space out the contact you have with her further and further and then when she asks you what is up you just tell her you feel the friendship has run its course.
Sounds good.....
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