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Are you under a lease or contract because then you couldnt be able to up and move and she wouldnt be able to treat you in this way. ( well she could but there are ways to handle it better)
Its her house.... I would move out and be done with it.
This is why its best to get your own place.
For those saying it's her house, yes I get that but if she has a roommate I at least need to be treated with the same amount of respect that I show her until the month's rent is up. Another thing to note is that we're in CA and using water as long as that, it's not right taking that long of a shower.
Are you under a lease or contract because then you couldnt be able to up and move and she wouldnt be able to treat you in this way. ( well she could but there are ways to handle it better)
No lease agreement, thank God. I'm just not sure one week notice would be polite? I mean, I want to get out of here as soon as possible and I intend to do everything within in my power to do so, but I need help moving for the big stuff at least. Plus the permission from my parents to stay at their place in between moving. I can grab a few pieces of furniture and sleep on the futon at my parent's place in the spare bedroom until I can arrange for the bed and dresser to be moved. Can't do those myself as I have a shoulder injury, but I can get the smaller ones just fine.
No lease agreement, thank God. I'm just not sure one week notice would be polite? I mean, I want to get out of here as soon as possible and I intend to do everything within in my power to do so, but I need help moving for the big stuff at least. Plus the permission from my parents to stay at their place in between moving. I can grab a few pieces of furniture and sleep on the futon at my parent's place in the spare bedroom until I can arrange for the bed and dresser to be moved. Can't do those myself as I have a shoulder injury, but I can get the smaller ones just fine.
I would not leave anything behind after giving notice.
You're not crazy - she doesn't sound like a particularly good roommate, and I question the decision-making abilities of anyone who leaves their back door open all night. On the other hand, it is her house, so while you are afforded some rights and respect, ultimately as the homeowner (and particularly as it seems there's no written lease in effect), her wishes trump yours.
As soon as you tell her you're leaving, she's probably going to try to get you out ASAP. I'd familiarize yourself with tenant rights in California - even if there's no written lease in effect, I believe you'd still be considered a tenant as you've been there for longer than 30 days. As such, there should be laws that you'll both have to abide by.
I moved here in December, so roughly five months and her hostility began when she discovered she had a brain tumor which was during the last one or two months. She had surgery (a successful one) but has still been irritable towards me.
Also, you should be aware, and so should your roommate that her irritability can be BECAUSE of her brain tumor or treatment for it; ie; steroids used to decrease swelling. Corticosteriods are often used for patients with brain tumors and surgery.
It may EXPLAIN the behavior, but it does not excuse it. But she may not even be aware of it or be able to help it.
Also, you should be aware, and so should your roommate that her irritability can be BECAUSE of her brain tumor or treatment for it; ie; steroids used to decrease swelling. Corticosteriods are often used for patients with brain tumors and surgery.
It may EXPLAIN the behavior, but it does not excuse it. But she may not even be aware of it or be able to help it.
Such a helpful, informative post! I retract my suggestion that the OP get snarky with her about her "smell" issue. Thank you for educating us today.
Also, you should be aware, and so should your roommate that her irritability can be BECAUSE of her brain tumor or treatment for it; ie; steroids used to decrease swelling. Corticosteriods are often used for patients with brain tumors and surgery.
It may EXPLAIN the behavior, but it does not excuse it. But she may not even be aware of it or be able to help it.
Thank you for mentioning this. I understand and have even looked this stuff up just to see if it could be related. There isn't any sort of a signed written agreement between us. Yes she is aware of it as I have talked to her about it before.
Thank you for mentioning this. I understand and have even looked this stuff up just to see if it could be related. There isn't any sort of a signed written agreement between us. Yes she is aware of it as I have talked to her about it before.
Well, she may not be able to do much about it. She's probably going through a tough time, and is stressed by her symptoms. It's too bad. You can't be expected to put up with this until it blows over, so the only solution is to move out. But at least, knowing this, you can be diplomatic in breaking the news to her. Good luck, OP.
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