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I cant stand her so much I don't even consider her an "in-law"!! Can slice the tension with a knife when we're in the same room and we don't even speak a word to each other.
Anyone else feel the same.
Have you considered that you may be the cause of that tension?
"The interesting is, I've known her for 15 years (unfortunately) and have hardly spoken to her. Cant stand her demeanor, attitude, etc. I will NOT give her a chance- the hate between us is too deep-rooted. There has never been any outright brawl or argument or anything- just tension when we are in the same room (I do everything to avoid her like the plague). That is the interesting thing. And it is mutual dislike. The brother KNOWS very well I think she's the plague and vice versa.
What has become complicating is they have 2 kids, mind you they are very adorable.
I will keep my distance".[/quote]
This says more about you than it does her, you apparently "hate" some one that has been in the family for 15 years,that you've hardly spoken to, but that you will not give a chance,for no good reason that you can offer. She probably avoids you too,and rightly so, that's what a wise person does when they suspect another of being slightly deranged
I don't have a sister-in-law, I have a brother-in-law, (my wife's brother), and strictly speaking, his wife is not related to me, she is my brother-in-law's wife, but I happily call her my sister-in-law as she is one of the nicest people that I know.
My brother-in-law on the other hand is as dumb as all get out, but means well, and loves his wife and kids to pieces, and his sister, my wife.
One example of the dumbass things that he regularly does is when he has dinner at our place.
We have a salt and a pepper mill that both work by batteries, you push the button on top and the salt or pepper is ground out and drops on your food.
We have had these, and other ones that work on exactly the same principle for years, but WITHOUT FAIL, he will pick them up and using two hands will twist them, until they inevitably come apart and fall into his food, a battery here and a battery there, the top of the item still in his hand, the bottom in his dinner.
My wife's attitude is one of, "Oh, he's a card, and no mistake, you know what he's like."
I on the other hand, because he ALWAYS ignores the warning I give him whenever he picks up the salt or pepper mill, feel like dragging him across the table and slapping him silly, but I know that I'd end up as the villain of the piece if I did.
To the person who commented on my reputation side-bar, "A good host would buy the twist type salt and/or pepper mills", an intelligent guest would see that having buttons on top of the ones on the table, or watching other diners use them by pushing the buttons, that they were NOT the twist type kind.
We don't fully understand because she avoided the question... Or because she has no valid reason for her hatred.
It's a he.
These are some reasons why I hate her:
- selfish, self-centered personality and sense of entitlement
- manipulates and bullies timid brother, and speaks down to him- I understand this reflects the brother's spineless disposition but it still bothers me when she does this. She has toned this down I think over the years but I still remember her always being like this; it's just her nature.
- when I give presents to the kids, she will always make a point to thank others but not myself, etc.She is the type to not acknowledge others, etc. etc..and other ways to just deepen the tension.
Knowing she has always been like this, I have never attempted to reach out to her. I'm fine with the hate between us, I am just curious to hear of others' experiences, not any insight into how to "improve" anything. She is the plague to me, and I know she feels the same about myself.
This says more about you than it does her, you apparently "hate" some one that has been in the family for 15 years,that you've hardly spoken to, but that you will not give a chance,for no good reason that you can offer. She probably avoids you too,and rightly so, that's what a wise person does when they suspect another of being slightly deranged
Yes she avoids me as well which is better for both of us, your quip isn't exactly a revelation. And there's no skeletons in your family's closet??
OP, did it ever occur to you that your sis in law is just reacting to your animosity towards her?
but anyway, to answer your question. Hate is such a strong word. I don't hate anyone.
My sis in law is annoying because she never shuts up but I don't hate her for that.
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