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Old 05-01-2016, 03:11 PM
 
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OP, you can go and keep a low profile. You don't even have to stay until all hours.

I don't like weddings for a variety of reasons, but I'll attend the important parts to make someone I love happy. I usually catch the ceremony and the first few minutes of the reception just long enough to congratulate the couple, then I'm gone. Depending on the wedding, I'm there 30 minutes to an hour. No big deal.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:13 PM
 
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Hey, you asked. Yes, going to a wedding maybe once a year, if that, makes my life sooo sad If you are unwilling to break your routine for your brother that you otherwise have no issue with, you have a problem. That's not normal. You came here looking for validation for behaving like a selfish child. You're not going to get it.
He will get it from me nobody needs your validation, and since thats what he came here looking for and your not giving it kick rocks.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:13 PM
 
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So I should just go to make everyone feel at ease and that's what adults do? I'm sorry but that's ridiculous. And that goes against my normal routine. I'm an adult and I'm allowed to make my own decisions.

You guys go to places where don't want to go . . . . you do things you don't want to do, and for what? Just to conform and please people. Sounds like a sad existence if you ask me.
Curious....what was the point of this thread, then?
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:16 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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^^^^ No, that's called being self centered, narcissistic, and a bunch of other unsavory word that I'll not mention.

You are not in this world by yourself. You have to take the feelings and needs of others into consideration if you want to have harmonious and caring relationships with others. Sometimes you have to put your desires or needs on the back burner for the sake of someone you love.

You come across those types every so often IRL and online. Those types usually get their karmic payback through leading miserable lives, that's usually what happens to those types.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:17 PM
 
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Curious....what was the point of this thread, then?
Ooooo!!! Oooooo!!! Mr Kotter, I know!!!!

If these sorts of posts aren't just to provoke others, then this is a really really sad place.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:17 PM
 
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So I should just go to make everyone feel at ease and that's what adults do? I'm sorry but that's ridiculous. And that goes against my normal routine. I'm an adult and I'm allowed to make my own decisions.

You guys go to places where don't want to go . . . . you do things you don't want to do, and for what? Just to conform and please people. Sounds like a sad existence if you ask me.
Be firm with your family. Tell them your feelings on marriage and why you don't see yourself getting married. They'll get over it, and if they don't, well that sucks for them but don't let it ruin you and your time. Maybe try changing the subject each time it's brought up. If they don't take the hint, walk away from the conversation. There exist be SOMEONE at the wedding you like and will talk to with no issues. I can't imagine everyone in your family is this obsessed with your personal life, especially on a day like your brother's wedding.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:18 PM
 
Location: here
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He will get it from me nobody needs your validation, and since thats what he came here looking for and your not giving it kick rocks.
Wow, did you join CD just to tell me that?? Nope, there's no rule requiring posters to be supportive.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:21 PM
 
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You come across those types every so often IRL and online. Those types usually get their karmic payback through leading miserable lives, that's usually what happens to those types.
I wouldn't call a life devoid of people and family who want you to do something regardless of feelings miserable, it's called paradise but after reading some of your posts you just want us to be miserable with you. Sorry we are happy alone.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:22 PM
 
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Wow, did you join CD just to tell me that?? Nope, there's no rule requiring posters to be supportive.
No I joined to tell you to put some respect on his name, I won't say it no more.
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Old 05-01-2016, 03:35 PM
 
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Yup, do things like that all the time. I give of myself. It isn't a sad existence. When you are at work, you do stuff you don't want to do don't you? Because it's your job?

I can't understand your way of thinking not doing something so simple, just because you don't want to when it can make someone else happy.
That work analogy doesn't work. I'm getting paid so it makes sense to me.

Doing things just for social conformity purposes is different.
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