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You say you support their marriage so please go. Family is important which you will learn as you get older.
Friends come and go but your brother is forever. He may not say anything but he will appreciate your being there.
You don't need to be part of the "chaos", just be there.
But you don't get it, so meh! Blow it off, cuz' you're too cool to let your brother's happiness inject "chaos" into your life. Blow it off, because you don't care about your brother's feelings, or those of your parents or other family. Blow it off, cuz' your feelings about "the fuss" are way more important than anyone else's. And, while you're at it, blow off "supporting him after the wedding " (whatever that means), because he won't be speaking to you anyway.
If you don't want to go don't go, and never let anyone tell you your feelings don't matter on your decision. Any one who says this does not care about you.
If you don't want to go don't go, and never let anyone tell you your feelings don't matter on your decision. Any one who says this does not care about you.
and welcome to CD first time poster! Glad to see you're not shy.
This is about HIM, not about YOU.....it's one day out of your life, a few hours even. You can't even make that short commitment - no wonder why you don't "get" marriage. I think the real reason you don't want to go is because you truly cannot commit to anything remotely related to marriage. It might make your skin crawl! You won't be a hypocrite if you don't believe in marriage and yet you go to a wedding. You WILL be an asshat if you don't attend your own brother's wedding because of the way you view marriage.
BTY - you had better not be one of "those" people who whine and moan when they find out they weren't even invited to a relative's wedding or event after the fact and then go around acting all hurt - when there was no intention of attendance anyway...
Why don't you tell your brother how you feel, if he cares about you he'll understand. Maybe it's me but I wouldn't want my brother at my wedding or any where else if he didn't want to be there.
You stay you want to avoid "chaos" but not attending a sibling's wedding is a BIG drama move. It'll be seen as you trying to get attention onto yourself, to cause a lot of drama. There will be 100+ people asking "where's the brother? why didn't he come? Oooh, it must be some juicy story! whisper whisper whisper." So if your motivations you state are true, the outcome will be the opposite of what you seem to want.
You stay you want to avoid "chaos" but not attending a sibling's wedding is a BIG drama move. It'll be seen as you trying to get attention onto yourself, to cause a lot of drama. There will be 100+ people asking "where's the brother? why didn't he come? Oooh, it must be some juicy story! whisper whisper whisper." So if your motivations you state are true, the outcome will be the opposite of what you seem to want.
Why would they be thinking about him, he is not getting married.
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You won't be a hypocrite if you don't believe in marriage and yet you go to a wedding. You WILL be an asshat if you don't attend your own brother's wedding because of the way you view marriage.
