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So, I have this friend I have known a long time, and she has changed over the years.
Long story short, she has kind of transformed into more of a socialite/fashion/high end type. Loves to buy clothes, go to expensive places for dinner. Loves to take selfies in the mirror dressed up and with makeup. When we're out, she takes pictures of everything she does and posts selected ones on Facebook later. She wasn't like that before, but I digress.
In any case, I've noticed that she never posts pictures of me with her even though she takes some. Now I don't think I'm a hideous looking person. I'm in decent shape, wear decent clothes that fit, and comb my hair with gel when I go out. But I'm not a beautiful/fashion fabulous person by any means. I'm probably in the scheme of things a below average looking guy who is in decent shape, and dresses OK.
Are people so shallow as to only post pictures of their better looking friends/friends who make for better looking photos on Facebook or is this all in my head? It doesn't really matter to me either way. I only use Facebook as a distraction and not to fuel/judge my social life. And me and her are not as close as we used to be.
But I was wondering is this is something that is commonly done and the opinion of it.
Oh BTW, we're both around 40 years old. If that makes a difference (I think it should).
So, I have this friend I have known a long time, and she has changed over the years.
Long story short, she has kind of transformed into more of a socialite/fashion/high end type. Loves to buy clothes, go to expensive places for dinner. Loves to take selfies in the mirror dressed up and with makeup. When we're out, she takes pictures of everything she does and posts selected ones on Facebook later. She wasn't like that before, but I digress.
In any case, I've noticed that she never posts pictures of me with her even though she takes some. Now I don't think I'm a hideous looking person. I'm in decent shape, wear decent clothes that fit, and comb my hair with gel when I go out. But I'm not a beautiful/fashion fabulous person by any means. I'm probably in the scheme of things a below average looking guy who is in decent shape, and dresses OK.
Are people so shallow as to only post pictures of their better looking friends/friends who make for better looking photos on Facebook or is this all in my head? It doesn't really matter to me either way. I only use Facebook as a distraction and not to fuel/judge my social life. And me and her are not as close as we used to be.
But I was wondering is this is something that is commonly done and the opinion of it.
Oh BTW, we're both around 40 years old. If that makes a difference (I think it should).
Short answer: Yes. My opinion is that it is crappy to treat your friends as props for your selfies or Facebook pictures.
Side point, I have known brides who selected their bridesmaids to be slightly less attractive than them but still "good looking" enough to have great wedding pictures.
I once had a co-worker whose sister told her flat out "You can not be my maid of honor unless you lose 60 pounds. I want my wedding pictures to be "perfect"."
The fact that you felt the need to post this question on the internet means it does matter to you.
Why don't you ask your friend why she doesn't include you on her Facebook posts. Maybe you should just find better friends. Forty year old people whose lives revolve around Facebook are pretty shallow, immature and overly self involved in my opinion.
Short answer: Yes. My opinion is that it is crappy to treat your friends as props for your selfies or Facebook pictures.
Side point, I have known brides who selected their bridesmaids to be slightly less attractive than them but still "good looking" enough to have great wedding pictures.
I once had a co-worker whose sister told her flat out "You can not be my maid of honor unless you lose 60 pounds. I want my wedding pictures to be "perfect"."
Yes. I am aware that there are people like that.
But typically become LESS shallow as they get older.
In any case, if I'm right, it's kind of sad. We've been friends for like 15 years.
The fact that you felt the need to post this question on the internet means it does matter to you.
Why don't you ask your friend why she doesn't include you on her Facebook posts. Maybe you should just find better friends. Forty year old people whose lives revolve around Facebook are pretty shallow, immature and overly self involved in my opinion.
Well, it matters in the sense that I thought about it yes.
But it wouldn't crush me to learn it's true. I am, after all 40. Seen it done it all. And her and I have been drifting apart for some time.
It's tough to find good friends. Very, VERY tough.
I'm around your age and really don't want to be someone's prop on her FB page. Seriously? Maybe the women in her pictures are as obsessed as she is and are posting the same and/or similar selfies. That seems normal for people 15-25 years younger, but not for someone who is 40. Seriously? You should be happy that she isn't posting pictures of your every little activity together on FB if you aren't nearly as active posting selfies on social media sites as she is.
People pick and choose the image they want to present on FB. Maybe she doesn't look as good in the selfies with you as she does in others. Maybe she doesn't want to post them because she doesn't want people to ask questions about you or maybe there is some "behind the scenes reason" she isn't putting you up in her pics. Maybe she takes a thousand pictures and is very selective about what she choose. Who knows. If it bothers you, ask her directly. I'm around you age, and that's too old to play games of "what if" and "why do you think," imo. I mean I certainly wonder things sometimes, but if I wonder something like you're talking about, then I'd just ask directly. Maybe it's purposeful, maybe she has no clue she's leaving you out. In any case, it gets it on the table.
I don't do FB, btw. I have lots of friends who do and I'm always amazed at the ridiculous drama it can create.
So, I have this friend I have known a long time, and she has changed over the years.
Long story short, she has kind of transformed into more of a socialite/fashion/high end type. Loves to buy clothes, go to expensive places for dinner. Loves to take selfies in the mirror dressed up and with makeup. When we're out, she takes pictures of everything she does and posts selected ones on Facebook later. She wasn't like that before, but I digress.
In any case, I've noticed that she never posts pictures of me with her even though she takes some. Now I don't think I'm a hideous looking person. I'm in decent shape, wear decent clothes that fit, and comb my hair with gel when I go out. But I'm not a beautiful/fashion fabulous person by any means. I'm probably in the scheme of things a below average looking guy who is in decent shape, and dresses OK.
Are people so shallow as to only post pictures of their better looking friends/friends who make for better looking photos on Facebook or is this all in my head? It doesn't really matter to me either way. I only use Facebook as a distraction and not to fuel/judge my social life. And me and her are not as close as we used to be.
But I was wondering is this is something that is commonly done and the opinion of it.
Oh BTW, we're both around 40 years old. If that makes a difference (I think it should).
Is this really the kind of person you want to be hanging out with, anyway? She wasn't like that before, but she suddenly became all narcissistic? It's not normal to amuse yourself taking glammed-up selfies in the bathroom mirror, and to treat what I assume to be your (her) FB acc't like some kind of celebrity promotional vehicle. This is strange, OP. I give people like that a wide berth. Time to do a fade-out from her life.
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It doesn't really matter to me either way. I only use Facebook as a distraction and not to fuel/judge my social life. And me and her are not as close as we used to be.
If that makes a difference (I think it should).
