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The book idea is terrific. Why not a theme? How about a ramp up with a Dr. Suess book every special occasion? Sign them with a favorite saying/quote or short story about yourself and or childhood memory which lovingly includes their parent, your sibling.
Why is the OP being crappy? He does not even know this child and it is obvious the child does not know him. Just because the child is a nephew means nothing.
You are his uncle. It's your sibling's child, who is having a milestone bday. Yes, you should get him a gift.
Just put a twenty in a bday card for a one-year-old, mail it and be done with it. And FTR, deciding NOT to sending a baby a present because you're mad that your mom told you to is a bit childish.
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Send a damn card. Maybe include a gift certificate to Babies R Us. Don't alienate your siblings by appearing uncaring.
And not doing something because your mom tells you to went out of style in 3rd grade. FYI.
I read the OP 3 times and nowhere did I see anything about not getting a gift because of the mom. In the 4 things listed, the mom isn't mentioned.
One perspective is this: Did the child send the OP a gift on the OP's birthday? No? Well, then...
The kid is a baby. He doesn't know one gift from another and has no clue what a birthday or gift is.
Why is the OP being crappy? He does not even know this child and it is obvious the child does not know him. Just because the child is a nephew means nothing.
Give it a rest already, we know you have an awful family. Not everyone else does.
OP, a gift card or has been suggested a savings bond is a great idea.
Yes, the first birthday is a big deal. One reason is because only a century a ago it was common for children not to reach age one. It was kind of like if a child made it that far they were over the hump.
For who and why exactly?
If this child rarely sees the OP then any card or gift is going to be meaningless.
Just like the gift card the OP decided to send.
It will mean nothing to the child and the OP only sent it because he allowed his mother and random strangers on a public forum into bullying, shaming and guilting him into sending it.
There is no obligation just because someone is a blood relative especially when they don't even know the person.
I have five nephews, age eight, five, nineteen months ×2 (twins), and eight months. I have one niece, age five (twin to a nephew). I live 600+ miles from all of them. I send them cards and gifts, and they do know me.
I have 8 nephews, 2 nieces. I live 800km away, and they know me, --- and I have a little saying or joke with each and every one of them. People will make an effort for what is important to them. My siblings kids, are important to me.
I am 34 and live across the country so I cannot attend my nephews 1st bday party. My mom keeps buggin me telling me I need to send a gift or card, but I didn't because 1. He isn't even old enough to understand what a gift is. 2. I was not attending the party. 3. I just mailed him a gift from a vacation a few months ago. And 4.I don't know what to get him because he has so much stuff already. Should I be expected to give a gift? Is it a big deal not to?
You're right, no point in the birthday present at that age....unless the parents need it.
I read the OP 3 times and nowhere did I see anything about not getting a gift because of the mom. In the 4 things listed, the mom isn't mentioned.
The OP is bitching about the mom telling him/her he/she should send something. That's what some posters are referring to:
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Originally Posted by jman07
I am 34 and live across the country so I cannot attend my nephews 1st bday party. My mom keeps buggin me telling me I need to send a gift or card, but I didn't because 1. He isn't even old enough to understand what a gift is. 2. I was not attending the party. 3. I just mailed him a gift from a vacation a few months ago. And 4.I don't know what to get him because he has so much stuff already. Should I be expected to give a gift? Is it a big deal not to?
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Originally Posted by MyNameIsBellaMia
One perspective is this: Did the child send the OP a gift on the OP's birthday? No? Well, then...
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Originally Posted by MyNameIsBellaMia
The kid is a baby. He doesn't know one gift from another and has no clue what a birthday or gift is.
Omg, I give up... It's your family. It's called good wishes. No, the baby isn't going to read the damn card. The parents will. It's celebrating their little 1-year-old child.
Geezus...
Last edited by SeaOfGrass; 05-16-2016 at 04:41 AM..
I can't believe anyone is actually saying that the baby's not going to remember one way or another. I can't believe you people think it's actually just about the baby. Wow.
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