Wedding Invitation Slight

[Tornado Baby]

I am grateful not to be invited.....keeps it simple. And cheaper. And less stressful. Any more reasons needed?

[city living]

Originally Posted by seain dublin

My relatives are generally nice people as well. Several years ago I got a wedding invite from a cousin I have no contact with and hadn't seen this first wedding, years before that.

I live in CA, they're in NC. I called that one a gift grab. Why send an invite to someone you haven't had any contact with in years and add in they live on the other side of the country?

Originally Posted by seain dublin

Not me, I didn't even know he was getting married until the invite arrived. As I said the last time I saw him was at his first wedding.

Because there are some people who just think you have to invite all of your family members. My mom insisted I had to invite a cousin I hadn't seen in a hundred years because I invited his brothers and their mother. I told her he isn't going to care but in her mind, it is the thing to do.

[mesmer]

Originally Posted by dmills

OP here. Thanks for all the feedback. No, there is no special family dynamic. My son knows her side of the family through church affiliation as he grew up. He hasn't gone to that church in probably 15 years. In that time I'd say they have seen him less than ten times total. It's always cordial, but nothing special. They've never made any special effort to include him in family activities over the years, but from my perspective it was never expected. He has a closer relationship with one of the boys that's closer to his age - and he got an invitation to the wedding. I don't think it was anything malicious or vindictive on my son's part. It just wasn't on his radar. The family member who has "pushed the issue" is insinuating some kind of obligation or expectation that my wife's extended family should have been invited. He felt bad when he realized he may have committed some kind of social faux paux - which I do not believe he did.

That sounds very reasonable on his part. Pushy family member is in the wrong here, not your son.