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So I work with a woman. She is around 36 or 37. She is not that attractive, pale, and very skinny. I know I am not gorgeous myself, but I always felt OK about my appearance. She once complained how being single is depressing her and has been single for many years. She said she would love to be beautiful like Linda Evangelista. The she said "what about us? How do we get men if we are not beautiful?" We are both single.
I immediately felt like someone punched me in the stomach. I mean I felt that was flat out rude.
Was she being rude or am I too sensitive? I don't know but I don't think I would say that to someone, ever!
Why you want to take rubbish in to your pocket. ? She did not tell it to you she spell out how she feel about something. If you take like that then how you label her on this post also rude dont you think?
Why you want to take rubbish in to your pocket. ? She did not tell it to you she spell out how she feel about something. If you take like that then how you label her on this post also rude dont you think?
Yeah maybe you are right. I think I'm too sensitive...I read too much into it!
No just dumb...how about being beautiful on the inside and letting that beauty radiate outward? This attitude that both woman have is light weight and superficial. ALL woman are beautiful...if you think you are not you will NOT be....
Been there. I don't get why people do that. Maybe just to bring people down when they feel down. I have been at the receiving side of those comments and they do sting. Just to try to shake them off. To me they feel like a put down my mom would do, so it stings more.
So I work with a woman. She is around 36 or 37. She is not that attractive, pale, and very skinny. I know I am not gorgeous myself, but I always felt OK about my appearance. She once complained how being single is depressing her and has been single for many years. She said she would love to be beautiful like Linda Evangelista. The she said "what about us? How do we get men if we are not beautiful?" We are both single.
I immediately felt like someone punched me in the stomach. I mean I felt that was flat out rude.
Was she being rude or am I too sensitive? I don't know but I don't think I would say that to someone, ever!
The words 'speak for yourself' would work wonders in this situation.
I would have ignored that part of her sentence and just answered the crux of the question. I don't think she was attacking you - she just mis-phrased what she really wanted to know about - how to go about attracting (the right type of) men.
Even 'classically attractive' women - you know the kind you see on the pages of magazines, etc. (who may or not be 'beautiful' to all of us - beauty IS in the eye of the beholder/owner) often have just as much trouble getting and keeping men as the rest of us who don't grace such places with our pictures daily. If she doesn't think so or know that, she needs to be educated anyway and because you reacted to the extraneous part of the sentence, I wonder if you helped her out at all? Hate to say it but yes, I think you overreacted.
Lots of what some would call not very attractive women are very successful with men - mostly because they don't much worry about whether they are 'beautiful' or not - they focus more on being interesting (and interested in), being upbeat (but not outrageously so), and mainly just being themselves. If you look like a fun/happy (with yourself no matter what that 'self' looks like), capable, self-confident, fascinating person to be around, it won't matter if you resemble a mouse, you will attract a crowd. If you look desperate, it won't matter how pretty you are ... people will shy away. Skinny, pale, chubby, orange, blue, purple .. none of those things really matter that much to the right kind of person.
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We are both single.
You beat me to it.
