Would you rather have no friends or have friends you've nothing in common with? (husband, member)
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I don't hate them. One of them agreed to put me up when I broke up with my ex a few months ago (long story). I've known her for over a year through a Facebook group. We initially connected because we both suffer from anxiety and depression, but she got better and has a new roommate her own age. They get along great, but I feel left out or like the boring older sister. Good people, yes. Friends, no.
They feel like a lot, because they are a lot. If you were 52 and your roommates were 42 it wouldn't feel likes such a gap, if they were say 29 to your 32 it wouldn't be bad, but 22 to 32, big gap.
What do you mean you have known her over a year through a Facebook group? Have you known a year in person or did you just meet?
Yes, you're right. Many today(and especially younger people) throw the word "friend" around way too much, when your acquaintances.
Maybe you have too much of an expectation? Many times people live together due to economic reasons and while you make small talk and are "friendly" but aren't interested in friendships where you socialize other than maybe making a meal together at home once in awhile.
It sounds like she did you a favor by letting you move in and you're expecting too much. I would look for outside interests, if you have anxiety issues perhaps a group that is tailored to people 30 and over.
My wife and child are all I need. I have one "true" friend who lives 900 miles from me. We have some family type "friends" that I'd go out of my way to help but I wouldn't say we have tons in common. Still nice to hand out with once in awhile.
Some think they have a 'friend' when anyone 'likes' anything on their social media.
Exactly, and it's pretty sad. I know someone who is 46(and should know better) bragging about how many Facebook friends they have. I said "you do realize these people aren't friends".:
Funny, they didn't call any of them when they needed a ride after outpatient surgery, I picked them up.
They feel like a lot, because they are a lot. If you were 52 and your roommates were 42 it wouldn't feel likes such a gap, if they were say 29 to your 32 it wouldn't be bad, but 22 to 32, big gap.
What do you mean you have known her over a year through a Facebook group? Have you known a year in person or did you just meet?
Yes, you're right. Many today(and especially younger people) throw the word "friend" around way too much, when your acquaintances.
Maybe you have too much of an expectation? Many times people live together due to economic reasons and while you make small talk and are "friendly" but aren't interested in friendships where you socialize other than maybe making a meal together at home once in awhile.
It sounds like she did you a favor by letting you move in and you're expecting too much. I would look for outside interests, if you have anxiety issues perhaps a group that is tailored to people 30 and over.
We met on a Facebook depression group. I stayed with the one friend before, but it was when she was still living with her mom and it was a healthier dynamic (at least for me). She's cool and all, but actually living together and her coming out of her shell has made me realize we haven't got anything in common.
I agree about age gaps. I tend to think people born after 1991 or so are just different in many respects. We don't like the same music. I feel old around them.
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