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So I'm friends with my brother's girlfriend on Facebook. I'm not close with my brother, but his girlfriend is a nice person and we talk on fb sometimes. Well I got an invite to a Halloween party she is co-hosting at her best friend's house. When I saw the invite I got a little excited about going. Turns out it was an accident. She invited everyone on her friends list on accident. I saw the list and she did intentionally invite some of my cousins and I think my sister and her husband may go.
I'm pretty hurt but honestly not very surprised that I wasn't REALLY invited. I believe it is because I have been at odds with my parents and siblings for many years. My mother has always picked favorites and dumped on me. I never really felt like part of the family. My mother got pregnant with me and my biological father wanted her to have an abortion. He didn't stick around and he signed away his rights to me. My mother married my step father who adopted and raised me from the time I was 2.
My mother always reminded me that I was different and it definitely took it's toll on me. Since I have married I don't tolerate her crap anymore. We live about an hour away from my parents, so it works out that I don't have to see them very often. I always wanted things to be different and tried for many years but I always ended up getting judged and put down by my mother and siblings. My father is very passive and doesn't say much about it. Family get togethers make me feel tense and uncomfortable. They also feel very "fake". My family loves my husband but it doesn't ease the tension and resentment I feel.
We went to my mothers house for my dads and sisters birthday a few weeks ago. I really only went for my dad. I got my dad some clothing and of course it wasn't good enough according to my mother. And she also made a comment that I didn't get my sister anything. My sister and I don't exchange gifts. So I didn't get her anything.
Now this party and not being included just adds to it. I think I may unfriend my brothers girlfriend..
Is it stupid to feel bad about it?
Last edited by Claireisme; 10-29-2014 at 11:21 AM..
Because "they are my family" blah blah blah. I will never hear the end of that.
I do plan to buy the book today though. Thank you for the link.
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