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I remember growing up my mom would always compare our families to other families with children she knew like we were never good enough. Like other families were so perfect compared to the one I grew up in. My dad was a lazy slob who rarely helped around the house or helped my mom with parental responsibilities of raising us 4 children. My mom played the martyr role very well. She felt the need to "control" the household but at the same time constantly complain about it. I feel like my sister's suicide was a result of their bad parenting
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I remember growing up my mom would always compare our families to other families with children she knew like we were never good enough. Like other families were so perfect compared to the one I grew up in. My dad was a lazy slob who rarely helped around the house or helped my mom with parental responsibilities of raising us 4 children. My mom played the martyr role very well. She felt the need to "control" the household but at the same time constantly complain about it. I feel like my sister's suicide was a result of their bad parenting
I don't think you can convict your parents here. I had a lazy dad and controlling and nagging mom and I never tried to kill myself. Many others have the same type of parents but manage to live somehow. Sucicide is rarely attributed to one factor.
I don't think you can convict your parents here. I had a lazy dad and controlling and nagging mom and I never tried to kill myself. Many others have the same type of parents but manage to live somehow. Sucicide is rarely attributed to one factor.
I had controlling parents and bullying at school. I wanted to be dead from age 11-14. I don't think I was mentally ill.
I remember growing up my mom would always compare our families to other families with children she knew like we were never good enough. Like other families were so perfect compared to the one I grew up in. My dad was a lazy slob who rarely helped around the house or helped my mom with parental responsibilities of raising us 4 children. My mom played the martyr role very well. She felt the need to "control" the household but at the same time constantly complain about it. I feel like my sister's suicide was a result of their bad parenting
You are trying to assign blame for your sister's act as a way of coping. You need to seek professional help and truly start dealing with this. In your head you may think you have dealt with it, but you haven't...get some help.
I don't think anyone here can could say whether your family history impacted your sister's suicide. If you could have one last conversation with her, she might not even be able to tell you the conclusive reason.
Often, one of the hardest things in the world is to accept outcomes that may not have a simple black/white reason. As was suggested earlier, it could be helpful for you to get counseling so that you can find a way to come to terms with your family history and your sister's suicide.
Maybe you should talk to a psychologist. Just to air things out. I am sorry for your sisters death and thinking maybe this has affected you in ways you aren't aware of. Stay strong.
I remember growing up my mom would always compare our families to other families with children she knew like we were never good enough. Like other families were so perfect compared to the one I grew up in. My dad was a lazy slob who rarely helped around the house or helped my mom with parental responsibilities of raising us 4 children. My mom played the martyr role very well. She felt the need to "control" the household but at the same time constantly complain about it. I feel like my sister's suicide was a result of their bad parenting
I don't know the answer to why your sister killed herself, but condolences on your loss.
Mainly, I'm really sorry you got such a crappy mom. My bio mom plays that martyr role...it's fricken disgusting. Got passed down to my sister - I can't deal with people like that. It's lies and manipulation, and people fall for it.
Here's the thing: Your sister is gone. Your mom will not change. Does she feel guilt? I doubt it. She'll play on it all, though, if she's a martyr like mine. She'll whip that sympathy card out whenever she needs to manipulate someone - so expect that. If you're old enough to live on your own, I hope you don't get sucked in to all of that crap from her. If you're not yet old enough, when you are, get far away.
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