The problem of women saying they don't like having lots of girlfriends. (sister, girls)
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I think it may have more to do with the age group and maturity level. When I was in my 20's I had more male friends then female friends. I was a Tom Boy and would rather have been out riding motorcycles, shooting guns, and fishing then be with a bunch of silly girls. They were boring to me and they were jealous whenever their boyfriends payed more attention to me then them. Now I have a mix of both male and female friends. I do have more female friends now that I'm older then I did when I was younger. One of my fishing buddies from my 20's was married when we would go fishing together, and, without his wife. She was just fine with us fishing together and we are all still lifelong friends. Women like her were few and far between though. She was not the norm.
One size does not fit all, and I guess you could call me untrustworthy if you want Staphangel, but my friends husband was safer with me then any other woman. I'm the one that dragged his sorry butt out of a bar when I caught him being too friendly with another woman. Sorry but to this day I still find my male friends to be more fun and interesting. Most of my female friends can't ride a mile on a bike let alone keep up with me on a 12 mile ride. Once a Tom Boy, always a Tom Boy.
I apologize if this is not the right forum to say this, but it is something that I and I am sure many others have noticed. Namely women that say "I don't really have a lot of girlfriends because I don't get along with other women" "I am not like other girls (as if other girls are somehow "bad")" "I have lots more guy friends than girlfriends" etc. etc. ad nauseum.
It's really sad. For one most do it just to look "cool" for guys, then internalize it and blow off other women even though they could be great friends! It's fine to have guys as friends, but as a general rule it works better if the friends women have are more women than men, to me if I meet a woman that says any of the above or has more guy friends I don't trust her.
Not to get political, but we live in an age where women more than ever should be helping and supporting each other, we should always support other women and come together in sisterhood. Yet it's really sad how so many feel it's a kind of badge of honor to say "I'm not like other girls/women". Anyone else feel the same?
I think you are talking about immature women or girls who are flirty and like to have attention from men. They may not get along with other girls or young women because they are man-stealing attention hogs.
That is not the same thing as a person who gets along better with the opposite sex because of shared interests and rapport.
A person who lacks social skills might have a problem with 'getting along' in general. Male attention is not the same thing as friendship. That could be the confusion.
I don't pick my friends because of what's between their legs. I pick my friends because of common intrests and life goals. I probably had a fifty fifty split of male and female friends, and will likely be friends with anyone as long as they're a kind person. I think that should be all that matters in friend groups.
I'm in a predominately male career. I'm female. The only drama comes from * drum roll * females. One in particular. Oh and the gay guy with the overinflated sense of importance.
I'm thankful for the internet because it's enabled me to meet other horse women around the country. We have a fairly close-knit group. I've met so many in person from California to Washington to Massachusetts to Georgia and tons of states in between.
I agree with the Texas gal. Too much superficial bs with so many women.
I disagree with the age group comment. Some of the worst have been older women. Jealousy, bitterness... I'm at an age where the youngsters don't have to worry about my competition for the stud muffins.
It's great seeing that I am getting some support. The sad thing is the women here saying "I just have more guy friends" in reality have their own internalized misogyny that makes them not be good friends with other women. We need to come together and combat the patriarchy which causes just this sort of thing. Instead of siding with your sisters women think it's safer and easier to side with the enemy, they are no better than collaborators in any other war.
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