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Where did you get that idea? The OP didn't mention a lifetime of issues. This seems to be something new.
She didn't say "since the age of 17 my brother has been a heartache".
The brother managed to work a job which he retired from(that shows responsibility), has his own place, can pay his own bills, and has money left over.
You just don't write someone off who suddenly starts having a major change in personality especially in this age range.
As I said earlier it could be Dementia or early onset Alzheimers.
She said that he's been dealing with mental issues for years and that there's no way he's living with her. You don't have to be Einstein to know that there's history there.
Maybe you can just call the police and ask? Unless they actually catch him driving a visit to his house by the police won't get him in trouble. Do you know a cop who would be willing to talk to him?
So my brother in his late 60's ended up a few months ago in the psyc ward with "so called, depression". He was feeling sorry for himself for being alone, gobbled a bottle of aspirins, immediately afterwards, he called 911 and they admitted him. They made him eat some kind of liquid charcoal and kept him for observation and to run tests to make sure he was "physically" ok after taking the aspirins. (he's been on medication for mental issues for years, but this is the first episode that this has happend
When I walked in there, he was as happy as a clam, being waited on hand and foot, smiling, laughing and joking with the medical staff. Not happy about the liquid charcoal, but what was he expecting?
His doctor told him she was pulling his license.
After a few weeks, he went home. Against all our warnings, he started driving again. Got away with it for months, then last night he ran a red light and hit a car. The cop charged him with running a red light and took his "license" which by this point is only a piece of paper that isn't legal. He just doesn't seem to "get" it. The cops are just going to find out that he is a disqualified driver and he'll be charged with that also.
While the insurance company will pay for the other car repair, since he has no license, his car repairs aren't covered.
We told him that he will not only go to jail the next time he is caught driving, but he could lose everything. Told him to take a bus or a taxi. I can't even repeat what he said to that idea.
So I worry that he'll lose everything if he gets into another accident and hurts someone... and then what? We can't be with him 24-7 and he WILL not turn over his keys. He refuses to agree that he can't drive, even today. I told him to take a taxi to run errands and he flat out said NO. At this point, he can certainly afford taxi fares.
I can NOT and will NOT let him live with hubby and me. Right now, he's comfortable in his own apartment, is retired and quite able to pay his bills with some left over to enjoy eating out, going to the casino, and taking the occasional trip.
It's a mess and I'm just venting. Aaaah!
I'm not understanding why your brother's license was taken. I didn't know depression caused people to lose their driver's license. This could prevent depressed people from seeking help for their depression if it means they can't drive anymore.
We thought about calling the police and telling them he might drive, but then if they catch him before they make him UNDERSTAND HE CAN'T, and he ends up in jail for driving under suspension I'd be concerned about his mental health sitting amongst hardened criminals.
The tire lock/boot might be an option I'll run by hubby tonight, thanks! As it is right now, with no insurance on the vehicle now, the bank will be calling in his loan anyways, so he'll HAVE to sell the vehicle. It's just so hard to explain all this to him because he has a hard time understanding and retaining information.
I'm not understanding why your brother's license was taken. I didn't know depression caused people to lose their driver's license. This could prevent depressed people from seeking help for their depression if it means they can't drive anymore.
That is because it does not make sense. There are a lot of holes to the story. Depression does not cause people to automatically lose rights without some sort of due process. The police were able to suspend the brother' license after the crash because it was still active.
This is long shot. The brother went to the hospital because he overdosed on aspirin.
That may have been seen as a suicide attempt along with severe depression.. The doctors may have thought he could use a car to kill himself ( drive into a tree, off a bridge, whatever). It appears they were taking him very seriously.
Normally he would have been able to contest the loss of driving privilege. Then he had the accident caused by his drinking. That took care of that option.
This is long shot. The brother went to the hospital because he overdosed on aspirin.
That may have been seen as a suicide attempt along with severe depression.. The doctors may have thought he could use a car to kill himself ( drive into a tree, off a bridge, whatever). It appears they were taking him very seriously.
Normally he would have been able to contest the loss of driving privilege. Then he had the accident caused by his drinking. That took care of that option.
He did? I don't recall the OP saying the brother was drinking.
I'm wrong- he wasn't drinking- he ran a red light. That alone would keep him from getting any consideration to keep his license after the doctor said he needed to lose the license.
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