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I have put quite a few people on my ignore list. They probably post to me and wonder why I never respond. Those most likely to go on "ignore" are those who are quick to judge. It's too easy to sit behind a computer and judge someone else's situation when we haven't walked a mile in their shoes. Inheritances and weddings tend to be very hot topics here. Just look at the "weddings" thread and see how angry and jealous people are about those who can afford to have large weddings.
Also, many people here may have never had to deal with a mentally ill parent, or a parent with a medically documented personality disorder. It is a huge struggle, for me, it went on for over forty years of my life. I don't post much about it because I know people would judge. I already know what they would say, word for word, no need to post about it here.
HAH, try posting in the parenting thread sometime....wow...they can get as bad as the political forum....
There's sort of a flip side to this, which I'll try to explain.
First, sites like C-D exist to amass posts. They don't want people NOT to post.
Second...how do I say this politely...on-line forums are one place where people can REALLY show their ignorance. And I mean that in a plain matter-of-fact way. Nobody, myself definitely included, knows everything and we all walk around with many pockets of wrong information (most of it about mundane subjects) we may not be aware of.
In real life, most of this just naturally stays hidden. Being anonymous on a forum like C-D make it WAY too easy to post wrong or misleading info on a variety of subjects. It's hard not to respond. I think the first one of this kind I got involved in at C-D was someone who insisted repeatedly that Tuscany is in France, because the Tuscan style of decorating made her think of France. Do you respond to that or not?
In addition these places make it way too easy to post unfocused navel-gazing puffery that probably never should be responded to as it contains neither a question or even a coherent thought.
I've seen forums where there's a bunch of one-hit wonders with no responses and they're not very popular. So in the long run, the impetus to respond...even in places where you probably shouldn't...is strong.
I think it would be fantastic if there were a feature that would allow a person to mark a post not just as "helpful/ positive" but also for not helpful (thumbs down) with enough thumbs down a persons reputation would be reduced which in some cases might be good because some people post solely to troll and not actually be helpful. I think I will have to suggest that somewhere.
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Originally Posted by cremebrulee
I think that is a great idea....as some people are naturally argumentative and love to aggravate others....
I think that would also help keep discussions on point and help curtail argumentative people. Maybe it would also help people not take posts so confounded personal. ? I don't know, just thinking out loud, but I think this post was very constructive....good thinking.
Over the years many posters have indeed made this suggestion in the "About the Forum" forum. There used to be such a thing as you are proposing on City-Data a long time ago, and it was removed. According to several moderators who have responded on the issue, it was removed becasue the cure was as bad as the disease. Some posters ganged up on people they didn't like by giving them negative reps. (Let's face it; not everyone is operating from a position of honesty and good will as you two probably are).
So be my guest and make the suggestion once again in "About the Forum", but I can pretty much guarantee the outcome: You will be told various versions of what I said above (and also some people will agree with you), and then after a while one of the senior moderators will post to say, "Thanks for the suggestion but we are not interested in re-introducing negative reputation at this time. Thread closed."
I don't expect you to take my word for it, but I would bet money (if we were in a position to do so) on that outcome because I've seen it play out that way more than once. Go ahead and try it.
Edited to add: Wow, that was quick!
You opened the thread in "About the Forum", the answers went roughly as I predicted, and the thread has already been closed by a moderator! I wouldn't have bet on the speed with which it played out.
Edited once again: O.K., I see by the times of the posts that you beat me to it! You had already made your request this morning before I posted above with the prediction. Believe me, I hadn't seen your thread in "About the Forum" yet.
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My ignore list is in my head and my rep button is at my fingertips.
I agree, there are some posters that I see their screenname and I just mentally flip right past without bothering to read their drivel. I've done that for a while now, hence why my actually block/ignore list is so short.
Yes, I tend to agree, it is basically a liberal following.
I have also found that conservatives are a lot less inclined to post....as much as liberals?
But they can be just as nasty, and heck I'm a conservative....lol
I'm shocked you think there is basically a liberal following here. Maybe you aren't referring to the politics forum? It seems to me that most of those threads are started by very right wing Trump supporters. And they can sometimes be viscious.
I'm shocked you think there is basically a liberal following here. Maybe you aren't referring to the politics forum? It seems to me that most of those threads are started by very right wing Trump supporters. And they can sometimes be viscious.
Yes, that is my personal opinion, this forum is basically liberal...that doesn't mean it is correct, however,
The other perception I have is, that both sides can be vicious....no one is exempt, both sides act like utter babies and point fingers, instead of offering something constructive to conversations, and you know why that is? Lack of information or knowledge. They have nothing constructive to add, so they resort to name calling or jokes, like little kids. But, you can also find the same dribble and vile lack of consideration for others in other forums.
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Sometimes it is good to allow posters to vent a little, in a nice way as this thread does, about the forum one participates in
Thank you for the posts and you all have a great day
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