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How is he abusive? He's a free loader and pushy. Tell him no because no is a complete sentence. You are not obligated to give him a ride just because he asks for it or because he is family. Tell him no, he'll have to find his own way home. If you didn't work together, he'd have to do that anyway (or find someone else to drive him).
One temp job I had, a coworker lived close to me. As winter approached she asked if I wanted a ride home. I felt I would offend her if I said no so I accepted.
My reality is she would drop me off 3 blocks from home where as when I took the bus, I used a transfer for that 3 blocks but didn't want to pay the full fare just for 3 blocks. I also missed my reading time.
What finally happened was that she had after work plans one day but felt she had to drive me 'home'. The next day we both talked about it & I admitted I missed my reading time & she admitted she resented that it felt like she had to give me a ride. We went back to the old way & everything worked out well.
This isn't the same as your situation but just tell him you have plans to meet friends or do what others are saying, that you are stopping at the library, going shopping, etc.
Tell him you'll give him a ride for $25 a day or whatever a taxi or Uber would cost. He's taking advantage of you. It would be one thing if he offered to pay for gas once in awhile, but they are getting by on one car at the expense of you. Family or not, forget it!
I had a similar situation many years ago. My freeloader rider was one of the execcutive team that I reported to. I made up an excuse and told her I had enrolled in a class downtown 3x a week and that the other days I planned on using the library to study for the class. It was too much of an impact on my work life to just confront her. Since this is your cousin's husband, an excuse might be best.
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