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I don't recommend this at all but to this day, find it amusing.. a co-worker who wanted someone to stop asking him for rides home, managed to do the 35 minute trip in 17 minutes. He said she covered her eyes and screamed for most of the trip, could barely walk when she got out of the car, and never asked again!
I like telling him you need to decompress or let the dog out to go to the bathroom. Gym.
I had a similar situation during a 60 mile commute ONE WAY to an internship. I met her at Fiesta Mall (I live in Queen Creek). So naturally I would meet her there. She never offered to drive and I think it was because of money issues. After the 4 time a week commute and 480 miles she gave me $20 bucks and that was it. Pleasant but talked too much. I went the distance and did it but begrudgingly. Will NEVER do it again. I have a child so that helps.
Good luck!
I cant give you a ride home anymore, it is the only me time I have
My SO is uncomfortable, so no more
It is not appropriate
I see you at work all day.
Some people like it easy and avoid taking the train or bus because it is so easy to get dropped off at home.
OMG, I could never be that direct with someone. It's an especially sticky situation because it's the cousin's husband. I'm in a similar situation with a legally-blind friend who's trying to get rides with me to weekly events in another town. She knows I'm going anyway, but I HATE having people depend on me for rides...takes away my independence of coming/going whenever I feel like it.
I think a "fake story" would be easier. Like, "Hey, I'm not going to be able to drive you home anymore, I've signed up for a course after work...". Something that would not be a one-off like grocery-shopping, which doesn't have to be done every night. Unless you think the cousin or husband would snoop around and bust you, like seeing your car at home. I know lies can end up being more trouble than the truth, but I just don't see how you say "I want to be alone and you get on my nerves" type of thing without causing major friction.
my car was in the shop one day, so i was able and willing to take the subway home, one of my co workrs insisted on taking me home by his car.
I really wante to takw the train and be all in my thoughts....but he kept on insisting, saying he was passing my way.
so i agreed.
it was the longest 20 minutes of my life...
ergh, I hate making small talk and wanted to daydream....
mental note: i never tell people when my car is being fixed.
just say no, im not going your way todau...
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