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I think I'm a good reader of people and can tell if someone doesn't like or approve of me.
And that's fine. I'm not looking to win any popularity contests. You don't like me, it's your problem, not mine - I know my worth and what I bring to the table.
Anyway, in my 50+ years, I've had maybe two people tell me to my face, "I don't like you." But I've had a score of others who I can tell also didn't like me; their facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. were dead giveaways.
Would you rather have someone actually tell you they didn't like you, or would you prefer them not tell you but convey it in their demeanor?
Hm. IDK. I don't think anyone's ever said that to me. Mad at me, sure. But not 'I don't like you'. That's hard to imagine. We all have been able to tell by demeanor/responses to us.
I know the GM at the eye clinic doesn't like me. I tested her the other day to confirm. I said oh, hi ______! What do you think about these glasses? Are they dreadful or are they cute?
She shook her head like 'don't talk to me' and said 'sure, they look great'. lol!
I know why she doesn't like me and I don't care. The feeling is mutual.
I think I'm a good reader of people and can tell if someone doesn't like or approve of me.
And that's fine. I'm not looking to win any popularity contests. You don't like me, it's your problem, not mine - I know my worth and what I bring to the table.
Anyway, in my 50+ years, I've had maybe two people tell me to my face, "I don't like you." But I've had a score of others who I can tell also didn't like me; their facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. were dead giveaways.
Would you rather have someone actually tell you they didn't like you, or would you prefer them not tell you but convey it in their demeanor?
I would rather have people like me, but if they don't, I don't have to be told... I can feel it and would have a fairly good guess as to why. (an event from years ago that they disapproved of but weren't involved in)
That's their problem, not mine. I am very well liked by the people around me who are important to me and that's all that matters.
My Motto: Those that mind, don't matter. Those that matter, don't mind. It's a good rule to stick to when looking at one's self.
I would rather have people like me, but if they don't, I don't have to be told... I can feel it and would have a fairly good guess as to why. (an event from years ago that they disapproved of but weren't involved in)
That's their problem, not mine. I am very well liked by the people around me who are important to me and that's all that matters.
My Motto: Those that mind, don't matter. Those that matter, don't mind. It's a good rule to stick to when looking at one's self.
I actually have a lotus/dragonfly tattoo with that phrase, on my ankle. But anyway...
I don't know. I guess I would rather have someone have the guts to tell me to my face instead of any number of passive-aggressive gestures.
I doubt I would even notice if someone didn't like me. Plenty of people do, so what do I care about the others? I'm not a narcissist or a celebrity whose income depends on being liked.
Can't recall anyone ever being so rude as to say it or loud though.
I would prefer they not say it to my face. If they did I would think they were looking for a fight and I wouldn't want to give them the satisfaction. I would ignore them. It would hurt though. Thankfully that hasn't happened yet.
I would prefer they not say it to my face. If they did I would think they were looking for a fight and I wouldn't want to give them the satisfaction. I would ignore them. It would hurt though. Thankfully that hasn't happened yet.
As I mentioned, I've had 2 people tell me upfront. Back in the day my response would be, "Let's step outside and settle this." Now it's, "I'm sorry you feel that way." and disassociate myself from the person.
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