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Did/do you (and not just you, posters in general) convey directly people that you don't like them? Do you give hints, tell them directly, just avoid them... Or just put up with it anyway and try to not be confrontational? (This doesn't go for cases if you're co-workers, family, or HAVE to see them regularly for some reason... more like if they're acquaintances.)
Did/do you (and not just you, posters in general) convey directly people that you don't like them? Do you give hints, tell them directly, just avoid them... Or just put up with it anyway and try to not be confrontational? (This doesn't go for cases if you're co-workers, family, or HAVE to see them regularly for some reason... more like if they're acquaintances.)
I just avoid them. Pretend that they're not even there. I wouldn't dislike someone just for the sake of it; they'd have to have a certain attitude about them that turns me off.
I can't even imagine anyone saying to my face "I don't like you." But maybe that's because I live in the south, where they're more likely to say "bless your heart!" I also can't image anyone really "not caring" that people dislike them, but it IS good policy not to let it bother you and to recognize that you probably have no control over it. In my experience, people tend to like me at first and then not like me later, possibly due to my penchant for brutal honesty, and I'm not exactly happy about it, but it is what it is. However, even I -- as unpopular as I am -- have never been thus confronted...
Telling someone you don't like them is unnecessary unless they ask. I can't stand those types that are nice to my face only to talk about me behind my back.
Telling someone you don't like them is unnecessary unless they ask. I can't stand those types that are nice to my face only to talk about me behind my back.
I would rather people not lead me to believe they like me, and then have their dislike of me broadside me at a random moment.
They could just tell me they don't want me around, but most people don't have enough of a backbone to do that.
OTOH, I don't dislike most people, at worst there's a compatibility issue; I've never told anybody I didn't like them, even if they've deserved it (post physical/emotional harm). I just cut them off.
As I mentioned, I've had 2 people tell me upfront. Back in the day my response would be, "Let's step outside and settle this." Now it's, "I'm sorry you feel that way." and disassociate myself from the person.
if that was your response 'back in the day', let me be the third person to tell you 'I don't like you'...or at least who you once were
if that was your response 'back in the day', let me be the third person to tell you 'I don't like you'...or at least who you once were
Matt, I've got news for you: I didn't like me back in those days!
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