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Now, I have nothing against the building residents personally. I started off treating them with how I wanted them to treat me: with a balance of warm politeness and respectful distance. Basically, exchange greetings, "how's your day?", "how's family?", and mostly leave it at that. Maybe even exchange an idea of two: I'd tell them about a recent phone scam, and they'd share an old country recipe.
Is it just me or does this sound really far fetched? Sorry if this is out of line, but this just seems too scripted and affected.
I dunno, if I'm visiting grandma I'm just motoring to an elevator and maybe waving and saying hello at the most.
Those who are hating on me for wanting to be seen as a real person, as opposed to having some "marriageable man" idea projected onto me, do this: google "Hot Topic employee stalker".
It talks about a nerdy guy who came to a Hot Topic store, and saw a cute employee he liked. All well and good... until he tracked down her [social media] information, and started bombarding her with messages, saying how she was a "geek girl" he's been wanting to meet. At the end, she reacted as you'd expect. I'm seeing a lot more parallels to that than to Pinocchio.
I realize there's a difference between a nerd and an elderly immigrant, but their actions are quite similar, minus the [social media].
Yes, I can see little matchmaking old ladies seem like threats to you. Pretty sure you could hold your own or outrun them.
Which one are you purporting to be in that scenario???
I think that's pretty obvious.
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I dunno, if I'm visiting grandma I'm just motoring to an elevator and maybe waving and saying hello at the most.
Same for me. The verbal exchanges were mostly niceties on my part, since I usually see the same people, and wanted to extend some goodwill. (Which other people here said I should do anyway.) Nothing grand, just a byproduct of conversations I got into while waiting to sign the visitors' log.
Oh please. I'm surrounded by millennials every day of the week and the self-involvement is rampant. It is, after all, the generation of millennials that launched "micro-aggressions" and "trigger warnings." Apparently, it is now a class-based "micro-aggression" to ask someone if they've been to Europe. A generation of thought-police out to punish anyone who doesn't conform to their self-centered view of the world.
I agree with Dissenter. I have Millennials in my family and among my friends, and "trigger warnings" and "micro-aggression" are not part of their vocabulary. They're not self-absorbed; they're too busy working and travelling, or launching a non-profit. They're hard workers with a lot to offer the world.
Those who are hating on me for wanting to be seen as a real person, as opposed to having some "marriageable man" idea projected onto me, do this: google "Hot Topic employee stalker".
It talks about a nerdy guy who came to a Hot Topic store, and saw a cute employee he liked. All well and good... until he tracked down her [social media] information, and started bombarding her with messages, saying how she was a "geek girl" he's been wanting to meet. At the end, she reacted as you'd expect. I'm seeing a lot more parallels to that than to Pinocchio.
I realize there's a difference between a nerd and an elderly immigrant, but their actions are quite similar, minus the [social media].
I'll tell ya this.
Some time ago I heard the phrase, "the 180* opposite of dysfunction = dysfunction." And I believe it.
You grew up under less than ideal parenting.
You have a handful of friends that went the traditional route with marriage.
Welcome to "that happens a lot." But...you seemingly dwell on it and have adopted (or are trying to appear as such) a set of attributes in opposition to that and are clinging to them in ways that typically indicate the same level of insecurity as, say, your friends that you believe married early.
There's nothing wrong with choosing the things that feel good to you.
But there's something very inauthentic when you constantly fly banners proclaiming things like "I AM COMMITTED TO HIGH-IBU BEERS!!" or "I MUST SALSA DANCE UNTIL 2AM!!" or "ACKNOWLEDGE MY DARK AND BROODING IMAGE THAT I AM CRAFTING OR ELSE!!!" I think these kids of manifestos drive people away in general; they can see through it.
I did a little bit of that in my mid-20s. Some of my most authentic and happiest times, though, was when I went off script and enjoyed a freaking mass-produced lager and realized that nobody gave a S or even noticed, or when I dated someone SO not my type for the hell of it and realized that nobody gave a S or even noticed, etc.
be real. Not a stereotype, even if it's a stereotype in opposition to another stereotype.
Is it just me or does this sound really far fetched? Sorry if this is out of line, but this just seems too scripted and affected.
Plus, the idea that you can dictate what casual strangers can and should think about you is odd. That's not how interactions work. Heck, the old people might be put off that MU thinks they're so unsophisticated that they need to be warned about scams.
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