My neighbor is so... not a good neighbor

[goldenlove]

Originally Posted by jobaba

Everybody is different Ruth.

I once had a job where I had to go door to door for something and take down addresses because we'd be doing work with the owners later. Some of the mailboxes didn't have numbers.

So, my boss TOLD ME to open the mailbox at the end of the driveway and look at the letter inside without touching the letter. So, I did and I didn't think twice about it.

Well, lo and behold and unbeknownest to us, this is a federal offense. There was a lady watching from the window and she called the police AND the postmaster general (we had a company vehicle). I got in trouble and so did my boss.

Well, that lady knew who we were and what we were doing and STILL called the police. Even is she wasn't sure, she could have come out and talked to us. It ends up that we had to do our job at her house the next week and I was the one who had to do the job. She never apologized and she was the biggest PAIN IN THE @SS I have ever met.

I have no doubt in my mind she thought what she was doing was completely right, and that EVERYBODY should call the police and postmaster general when somebody opens their mailbox.

My point is that people think completely differently. It's sometimes worth is to figure out the disconnect instead of just assuming the neighbor is an @ss or means total malice.

Why should that woman have apologized? What you did was against the law and she called the police because you were breaking the law. It doesn't matter WHY or that you didn't think you were doing anything wrong, it was wrong. You were wrong. She wasn't.

Just like the neighbor was completely in the wrong to send workers into the OP's yard. I don't care what her thoughts were, they were wrong. It's very simple.

[jobaba]

Originally Posted by goldenlove

Why should that woman have apologized? What you did was against the law and she called the police because you were breaking the law. It doesn't matter WHY or that you didn't think you were doing anything wrong, it was wrong. You were wrong. She wasn't.

Just like the neighbor was completely in the wrong to send workers into the OP's yard. I don't care what her thoughts were, they were wrong. It's very simple.

Yes, but I did not know that was wrong.

You could talk it out with me or you could call the police and postmaster general and possibly cost me my job.

I wouldn't do that.

It is what it is. People are different and that's very obvious from City Data.

Anyway, I'm done posting in this thread. Apologies to the OP for the semi-hijack.

[MsMetal]

I would have called the Police & Postmaster too. It's a Federal Offense. Ignorance of the law is not an excuse. Not to mention in this day & age of ID theft, I may have detained you forcefully if you were on my property, until the cops came. No apologies.

ETA: That is for Jobaba's scenario. Already stated days ago that OP's neighbor had no right to "allow" others to trespass on her property.