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So there were times when I feared and even laughed at those becoming "that person". The slightly, or sometimes way older guy/gal who hangs out with people 10-20 years younger. But that's pretty what I feel I've become. I go on these night-time bicycle rides that are generally geared towards a casual set. At the end of the ride, gather a select set of riders to do an after-ride to a random bar, then sleep through the entire early/late morning until it's time to be fresh and drive back home.
Anytime someone suggests doing a more serious, faster-paced cycling activity, or something that doesn't involve partying, I kind of blow it off as being boring.
Perhaps I haven't matured yet, perhaps my job as a trucker and following the laws/regulations all night/day long makes me not want to hang out with a bunch of people I consider by-the-booker's.
Dating game aside(I strangely never feel attracted/interested in dating outside of my age box), anyone else feel the need to stick to the more younger, raucous crowd?
For me personally, no. I'm 38 and I don't have the energy to live the kind of lifestyle I did at 20. If I can keep my eyes open past ten, that's a miracle, lol. However we're all different. If you like your friends and are happy in life, then that's awesome!
Last edited by SparklesNShine; 07-21-2017 at 02:45 PM..
No way. I've always felt like older people should be more mature and be a good example to younger people.
So no, I would feel very uncomfortable being the oldest one. I do NOT want the responsibilities, i.e. being a good example to them, feeling like I should be a leader because I'm much older than they are.
On the other hand, I am perfectly fine being the youngest because I can look up to them, I can be the follower. In other words, no responsibilities, no expectations on me.
No way. I've always felt like older people should be more mature and be a good example to younger people.
So no, I would feel very uncomfortable being the oldest one. I do NOT want the responsibilities, i.e. being a good example to them, feeling like I should be a leader because I'm much older than they are.
On the other hand, I am perfectly fine being the youngest because I can look up to them, I can be the follower. In other words, no responsibilities, no expectations on me.
I was always a poor leader. Anytime I was given the opportunity to lead, well, anything, it turned out rather disastrous and the shunning was more than I could bear. In that regard, I'm one of those people who thinks leaders are born as opposed to trained, educated, or molded.
That said, I'm perfectly comfortable being the guy on the big bike rides with the sound system and playing the tunes. If anything, I'm more of a "Technical specialist" within the group as opposed to someone with lots of stripes or shiny bars on their shoulders. I'm neither looked down upon, or up to. Just acknowledged as "that one guy".
I hang with a very age diverse crowd, ranging from early 30s to over 60. No one thinks much of it in a small town. We even go to the beach together every summer, like 25 of us, and it's a blast.
I was always a poor leader. Anytime I was given the opportunity to lead, well, anything, it turned out rather disastrous and the shunning was more than I could bear. In that regard, I'm one of those people who thinks leaders are born as opposed to trained, educated, or molded.
That said, I'm perfectly comfortable being the guy on the big bike rides with the sound system and playing the tunes. If anything, I'm more of a "Technical specialist" within the group as opposed to someone with lots of stripes or shiny bars on their shoulders. I'm neither looked down upon, or up to. Just acknowledged as "that one guy".
I agree that leadership is born, not learned.
I wouldn't want to be "that one guy" either because then I'd feel singled out and different, which I really don't like either.
I wouldn't want to be "that one guy" either because then I'd feel singled out and different, which I really don't like either.
One good thing that these party-ride crowds have done for me is turn me into a bit more of a vocal person. I think the reason why I still attend and travel out to these functions is because I've been doing them since I was pretty much a youngster myself. 23 years old on my first, crowded bike party ride and I wasn't as out-going. Now, I pretty much engage more people in random banter than I did during my late teens, early 20s.
At the same time though, I do find a lot of older folks, late 40s, to early 60s range, on my rides that have my same mindset. So I don't get to escape being the kid all the time. So yes, we do actually have a more varied age bracket at my chosen hangouts/events.
So there were times when I feared and even laughed at those becoming "that person". The slightly, or sometimes way older guy/gal who hangs out with people 10-20 years younger. But that's pretty what I feel I've become. I go on these night-time bicycle rides that are generally geared towards a casual set. At the end of the ride, gather a select set of riders to do an after-ride to a random bar, then sleep through the entire early/late morning until it's time to be fresh and drive back home.
Anytime someone suggests doing a more serious, faster-paced cycling activity, or something that doesn't involve partying, I kind of blow it off as being boring.
Perhaps I haven't matured yet, perhaps my job as a trucker and following the laws/regulations all night/day long makes me not want to hang out with a bunch of people I consider by-the-booker's.
Dating game aside(I strangely never feel attracted/interested in dating outside of my age box), anyone else feel the need to stick to the more younger, raucous crowd?
If you need to ask about it, it probably is creepy for you to be there.
If you need to ask about it, it probably is creepy for you to be there.
I was never inferring "feeling creepy". I just wanted to see who else does so. As far as that word "creepy" or any other variation of it goes, it's become another "throwaway" term that anyone will apply to one who doesn't "get with the program".
Personally, I'd probably launch myself over a Grand Canyon handrail if I had to hang out with couples my age.
There was another thread in here about a guy not liking hanging out with friends that started/maintained families. Didn't want to be that guy, so I stick to my guns.
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