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I was reminded of something when reading another thread, and wanted to see if others have ever experienced something similar.
Way back in high school (decades ago) my older brother had a close friend I'll call Rod. Rod was at our house a lot, and the 3 of us often hung out. (I had a bf who I was head over heels in love with, or so I thought.)
My brother died in his late 40s, and Rod came to the funeral and to the house (of another sibling) afterwards. We all had fun reminiscing, etc. I'd heard Rod had married, had a good job as a hs principal, and lived in the same city as I do. We chatted quite awhile........openly......there was no whispering, flirting or anything like that.
As Rod left I walked him to his car, we exchanged a very harmless hug, and he said something about getting together (we never did).....life tends to just move along.
As I went back into the house one of my aunts said "Oh. Where's Rod?" I replied that he left. She said "I thought he was your....ya know...." and winked. I said "My...what?" She said "Some of us thought he was your fella." I replied "No. I don't think his wife would allow that."
Had something like that happen during the first few years I was working at the library.......at the time, I had a co-worker named "Peter", and one of the women in our work area got the idea that I had romantic feelings for him. (No idea how or why she got that impression....."Peter" was never more than a friend to me)
This particular aunt was maybe 60 at the time but you're right. She was the type who would corner someone and ask when they were gonna propose/get married/get pregnant, etc. Busybody.
Yes, I had something similar in college. My bff and her boyfriend had an amicable breakup. He and I were very good friends so when they broke up, I asked her if she would mind if he and I still hung out. She was totally fine with it and had already moved on to dating someone else.
He and I got along great, same interests/values, etc. We went to movies, dinners, concerts, pretty much anything. One day she asked me if he and I had something going on since we hung out every few weeks lol...I never found him attractive and never said that to her while they dated but I guess this time I had to. He and I were strictly platonic.
This particular aunt was maybe 60 at the time but you're right. She was the type who would corner someone and ask when they were gonna propose/get married/get pregnant, etc. Busybody.
Is this what the people who are knowledgeable in Yiddish refer to as a "yenta"?
Is this what the people who are knowledgeable in Yiddish refer to as a "yenta"?
Yeah, just looked it up. I'd thought the term was said in affection, but the definition was "gossip, busybody".
HOWEVER, I know of younger people - male and female - who try to imply romance between two people when there is only a platonic acquaintance or a good working relationship. I recall working in offices where, if two people got along, chatted, laughed and (Heaven forbid) went to lunch together people would insinuate that something was "going on".
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