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There's a woman that I've been acquainted with for a couple of years, that I rather like. She has some good qualities but there's one thing about her that I find offputting. She spends an inordinate amount of time talking about other people's relationship issues. She always has an opinion on everything to do with other people's situations or problems. If someone is talking about something or other related to dating, I look at her and I can tell that she's about to weigh in, and sure enough she does.
Well, what a surprise that she might "weigh in" in a group discussion.
I like her but this concerns me because it makes me think that she's one of those people who really has nothing better to do than yap about other people's affairs. I can't help thinking that perhaps she doesn't have anything much to offer herself.
"Offer" to whom? You? And you are offering – what, pray tell?
Am I overthinking it or could it be that this is a big red flag?
A big red flag to what, exactly? Dating her?
There's not enough information presented by OP to declare this woman boorish, obsessed, a Nosy Parker, possessed by madness, or any other thing. He's (I assume he's a he) identified something about the woman's personality that he doesn't like. She's not going to change so there must be enough of a payoff for him to continue to be in her presence. What's that?
There's a woman that I've been acquainted with for a couple of years, that I rather like. She has some good qualities but there's one thing about her that I find offputting. She spends an inordinate amount of time talking about other people's relationship issues. She always has an opinion on everything to do with other people's situations or problems. If someone is talking about something or other related to dating, I look at her and I can tell that she's about to weigh in, and sure enough she does.
She's a fixer who is too afraid of her own issues to fix herself.
There's a woman that I've been acquainted with for a couple of years, that I rather like. She has some good qualities but there's one thing about her that I find offputting. She spends an inordinate amount of time talking about other people's relationship issues. She always has an opinion on everything to do with other people's situations or problems. If someone is talking about something or other related to dating, I look at her and I can tell that she's about to weigh in, and sure enough she does.
I like her but this concerns me because it makes me think that she's one of those people who really has nothing better to do than yap about other people's affairs. I can't help thinking that perhaps she doesn't have anything much to offer herself. Am I overthinking it or could it be that this is a big red flag?
Red flag? You mean it's an all-or-nothing situation where you either do nothing or turn your back on her?
Why don't you speak up? If it's a big deal for you, it's not that hard to say - especially if there's a third person there, "Excuse me, guys, but I think it's tacky to be dissecting other people's lives."
On the other hand, personally, I like friends who have opinions and voice them. If the conversation is about someone doing something deplorable, I hope to have friends with standard who weigh in.
If she is gossiping about others, than most likely she is telling your business to others. follow your gut feeling, this is clearly a red flag to let her go
There's a woman that I've been acquainted with for a couple of years, that I rather like. She has some good qualities but there's one thing about her that I find offputting. She spends an inordinate amount of time talking about other people's relationship issues. She always has an opinion on everything to do with other people's situations or problems. If someone is talking about something or other related to dating, I look at her and I can tell that she's about to weigh in, and sure enough she does.
I like her but this concerns me because it makes me think that she's one of those people who really has nothing better to do than yap about other people's affairs. I can't help thinking that perhaps she doesn't have anything much to offer herself.
Am I overthinking it or could it be that this is a big red flag?
Poor thing, sounds like she doesn't have much of a life.
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