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Nice to e-meet you, too. Best of luck finding a group of new friends/acquaintances to do things with. It's hard to break into social circles here in Pittsburgh (especially in the newer suburbs--either with or without children), but there are plenty of others in your shoes who want to find people to do things with that don't necessarily revolve around parenthood/kids, sports or alcohol (not that there's anything the matter with those three things).
Last edited by Twenty Years in the Burgh; 03-07-2018 at 06:10 AM..
Nice to e-meet you, too. Best of luck finding a group of new friends/acquaintances to do things with. It's hard to break into social circles here in Pittsburgh (especially in the newer suburbs--either with or without children), but there are plenty of others in your shoes who want to find people to do things with that don't necessarily revolve around parenthood/kids, sports or alcohol (not that there's anything the matter with those three things).
It is! I think PTO moms, stay at home moms, or those with flexible jobs get more time to mingle with others at school and build relationships during the day. I work downtown and the three evening hours are spent taking the kids to their activities ... before you know the day is gone.
What you said about the three things is so true, just good/fun people to hang out with now and then!
I will definitely give MeetUp a try, that group you mentioned sounds fun. Now all I need is to find a babysitter
What about your co-workers? Anyone worth hanging out after work with for a glass of wine?
I work at a smaller office and am one of the managers. Most workers have a negative attitude. The positive ones worth hanging out with literally never leave their offices. We are parents running home after work and live in opposite parts of town. But I know what you mean, trying to think of people I currently know to build closer friendships. Will give it more thought for sure!
The main problem I had with meetup groups were no-shows and people who would be very, very late. I eventually quit. I'd say, try joining one but if they are doing this kind of stuff, I'd cut it loose and find a different group. There are also cliques within the meetup groups. The one that I joined was formed by a woman and her two best friends, but they wouldn't relate to anyone else in the group and viewed the rest of us as "outsiders". No surprise that the group didn't last long.
My experience with Meetups has been that it's a great venue for having people to do things with if I don't have anyone in my existing circles to try something new or do an activity I enjoy, not so good for making meaningful friendships. As an organizer and participant, I find low level of commitment from attendees and some of the organizers. The better ones I've been to are work related or groups that are already established organizations outside Meetup, such as conservation organizations, that have a Meetup page for social media marketing purposes. The ones geared strictly towards singles have been my worst experiences.
Same way you made friends before you was 40. C'mon now lol
I disagree, I'm not talking about making small talk and smiling and how to approach people.
I'm talking about the change of life circumstances like having kids to attend to, jobs and other responsibilities that turn making new friendships more difficult than when you are single and in college.
We moved to another state 2 years ago and I didn't know anyone here! Most of my "newer" friends are the mom's of my kids new friends. Not all, but I have become close with 2 of them. I invite their kids over to play and I ask the moms if they would like to stay for a bit and have coffee. I also had a ornament exchange around Christmas one night with some wine. Invited the neighborhood moms and some of my kids friends moms. Only about 5 came, but it was still fun. You could also host a book club or a Bunco night?
Obviously theses ideas don't always work, I have met some pretty crazy moms as well, but just more ideas!
We moved to another state 2 years ago and I didn't know anyone here! Most of my "newer" friends are the mom's of my kids new friends. Not all, but I have become close with 2 of them. I invite their kids over to play and I ask the moms if they would like to stay for a bit and have coffee. I also had a ornament exchange around Christmas one night with some wine. Invited the neighborhood moms and some of my kids friends moms. Only about 5 came, but it was still fun. You could also host a book club or a Bunco night?
Obviously theses ideas don't always work, I have met some pretty crazy moms as well, but just more ideas!
That sounds fun! I do plan occasional playdates for my kids and talk to their friends' moms while they play. It's usually nice. Also, last year I got tired of no events and hosted my own end of summer kids party and invited some of those same families. It was fun, though I went overboard and overspent LOL But maybe having something not as elaborate a few times a year would work.
Thanks! for the ideas!
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