Can't Get Over Sil's Comment (dynamics, abuse, issues, money)
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Sorry for the rant but Easters coming and I am dreading it all.
Rant away here, it'll make you feel. C-D is a safe place to vent!!!
As others have said before me... LET IT GO!!!
Your SIL is a piece of trash, that's just what she is and she's not going to change. Remember, you can't pick your family or... your in-laws.
My youngest SIL is an insecure mess. Luckily my husband's family is all in FL, but I am not friends with her on Facebook. Recently, she wanted to connect with me on LinkedIn and I deleted her request. I told my husband that I never connect with anyone unless I have a real work connection to them. Anyway, over the years, I have seen firsthand how she has tried to demean my husband in from of his family and even his mother's friends. My theory is that she thinks by bringing him down, she will look better in the eyes of others. And of course, it's so not true. Meanwhile, she married into a well-to-do family, but her husband is an idiot, and over the years, they both have become rather overweight....
My point is, everyone has toxic people in the family and extended families. And don't let them push your buttons. If you let them, then they win. I would go to Easter dinner, kill her with fake smiles and pleasantries... don't sit next to her, don't have any real conversations with her. Be extra nice to everyone else. Eventually it will be time to go home. But if she is as mean as you say she is, the happier you look at Easter dinner, the more miserable she will be inside.
And don't forget to make sure that your husband is having a great time at that Easter dinner also. Because that would be a double whammy against her! And do you get along well with his brother (her hubby)? Having him enjoying your company and thinking that his brother is a lucky man for having you as his wife would make it a triple whammy win. BTW what interests and hobbies does this brother have?
I thought the OP was pretty clear what she thought the SIL was implying. Of course, there's no way to know whether or not it's what she actually meant.
I missed it - what was the sister-in-law implying?
Yes, I've read that two times and I still do not understand what the sister-in-law was implying. It is not clear to me.
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A comment like that, to me, means she was implying that I could be being deceitful and I was so angry when I got in the car I texted my other sil and she was like oh that's our sil who doesn't make any sense. Really? That makes perfect sense to me and it wasn't bon voyage! I took this comment to mean that what I was doing or who I was doing it with or how I was paying for it or all of the above was being scrutinised and was questionable.. Am I wrong for taking it like this?
OP, what was your sister-in-law implying by saying "if the trip is on the up and up"?
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Originally Posted by hertfordshire
I thought the OP was pretty clear what she thought the SIL was implying. Of course, there's no way to know whether or not it's what she actually meant.
I didn't understand it either. Was the SIL implying that the OP was lying about the entire trip or lying about it being paid for by someone else? Or, was the SIL implying that she was invited along to be a sexual partner? The comment and the explanation doesn't make sense to me either.
Last edited by germaine2626; 03-23-2018 at 05:24 PM..
My BIL married a complete harpy 30 years ago. Everything is about her all the time. Even the most innocent comment gets twisted around so that she thinks people are talking about her. She simply avoids the family most times and, on those few occasions when she comes to family events, we have to hold our collective breaths to determine what mood she is in. Her parents lives a scant five miles from us, and they have never so much as bothered saying hello when they come to town.
Just last year, her daughter, my daughter, and my nephew from a different BIL all were accepted into graduate school at the same time. The SIL posts on FB how proud she was that her daughter got into graduate school. Meanwhile, my other SIL, as sweet and kind a person as humanly possible, responded by saying how exciting it was that all three were accepted into graduate school at the same time.
Well, the harpy proceeds to go on a multi-paragraph Facebook rant about how it wasn't about my daughter or my nephew, but her daughter alone. And how she was tired of being the black sheep of the family, blah blah blahbity blah. Then proceeds to defriend everyone in the family.
Now her mother has advanced dementia. Rather than be an adult, tend to her mother and help her poor father, she steadfastly refuses to come to town, saying that she wants to remember her mother the way she was. SMFH.
I didn't understand it either. Was the SIL implying that the OP was lying about the entire trip or lying about it being paid for by someone else? Was the SIL implying that she was invited along to be a sexual partner? The comment and the explanation doesn't make sense to me either.
That's what I take it to mean though the way OP went around and around the rosebush with it, it's about as clear as mud.
Oh, so you guys are looking for more specific speculation? She's not going to be able to give you that level of detail since she didn't actually ask what the SIL meant.
Oh, so you guys are looking for more specific speculation? She's not going to be able to give you that level of detail since she didn't actually ask what the SIL meant.
Well if she didn’t ask what her sil meant then she’s getting her knickers in a twist for 6 months based on what, perception/ speculation
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