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So from time to time, you always hear how women have that one best friend (usually another woman) whom confine EVERYTHING and ANYTHING... They call each other best friends and share everything with one another. They call themselves 24/7..etc.
My question is, do most guys also have that one friend they call their best friend and share everything with them? It seems that guys really don't have a "best friend" as girls will do. There is that one friend who you are particularly close to compared to others, but at the very most...is still just a friend. Is this true? Do guys have a tougher time connecting with each other?
So from time to time, you always hear how women have that one best friend (usually another woman) whom confine EVERYTHING and ANYTHING... They call each other best friends and share everything with one another. They call themselves 24/7..etc.
My question is, do most guys also have that one friend they call their best friend and share everything with them? It seems that guys really don't have a "best friend" as girls will do. There is that one friend who you are particularly close to compared to others, but at the very most...is still just a friend. Is this true? Do guys have a tougher time connecting with each other?
Don't know about "most males" but I have had a best friend since college (I'm old so that's probably before you were born)...best friend is my college roommate but I would also classify my younger brother as another "friend" that I share everything with.
I do, a couple to be exact. These guys were like the brothers I never had. We would go by each other's homes on the weekends, our parents knew each other. We've been close since 3rd grade.
In 1948, before "day care" was generally available, my mother took in a four-year-old boy Mon-Fri while his single-parent mom worked. His mom saw him only on weekends. I was also four in '48.
My parents saw to his education, MD appts., fed, clothed, etc. him, tolerated his bedwetting and he became my best friend. At age nine (after 3rd grade) his mom decided he could get up on his own, take the streetcar to school, etc. So he left.
Nevertheless, we remained close and I was best man at his two weddings. Bill died at age 42. A good-hearted guy.
Going back to 3rd grade, a new student and I befriended each other. Same neighborhood, same classes through college, same athletic teams until age 16 or so, joined the same National Guard unit, and drinking buddies until we were in our late 40s when he quit alcohol.
People used to say we were joined at the hip.
Today we still phone and do the email thing a dozen times a year.
Curiously, friend #1 and friend #2, although cordial to each other, were never close. In fact, there probably were no more than 10 times that the three of us engaged in any social activities together.
Well let me start by saying is great that guys too have good friend. I was feeling like not many guys had that one friend to lean when things got tough.
I have my best friend, who I can unconditionally count on. Like others have said, we are like soul mates in that we share a lot of stuff in common, and while we are still our very own person, with many differences, we are also very alike.
Lately, we don't hang out as much as before since he recently got married, but even then, his wife loves me, so I still get to keep my best friend lol
Recently one of his friends, told him, that he was kinda jealous of our friendship since he didn't have that one friend that he could confide on. His exact words were "I see the way you two have each others back, and i wish i could have somebody like that"
Blessed! I feel blessed that as a guy, i have a true brother which i can count on in all ways possible. Yes, sometimes i feel as males we are closer than most, and people have even told us if we're secretly in love, to which we respond "Absolutely" lol
Funny thing is our friendship didn't start as kids nor as teenagers. I met my brother at work already as adults and we come from completely different worlds. He didn't have the opportunity do finish his HS and works in construction, myself on the contrary have a Master's in Civil Engineering. We both looked life through completely differently lenses, yet we get so along.
Honestly, I always though everyone had that special friend which was their supporter in life. But now that I'm seeing that not everyone has a true best friend, I feel myself as a very lucky person.
So from time to time, you always hear how women have that one best friend (usually another woman) whom confine EVERYTHING and ANYTHING... They call each other best friends and share everything with one another. They call themselves 24/7..etc.
My question is, do most guys also have that one friend they call their best friend and share everything with them? It seems that guys really don't have a "best friend" as girls will do. There is that one friend who you are particularly close to compared to others, but at the very most...is still just a friend. Is this true? Do guys have a tougher time connecting with each other?
Yes. Men do have best friends, but they probably are not going to act like female best friends. Women are most chatty, emotional and quite catty. Meanwhile, men are less verbal and they aren't going to giggle and share gossip, well unless they are really effeminate gay men.* But they will spend time together enjoying and talking about a mutual hobby or interests like professional sports.
* I've had gay friends for years, and yes, they were all gossipy and catty, just like women.
Yes. Men do have best friends, but they probably are not going to act like female best friends. Women are most chatty, emotional and quite catty. Meanwhile, men are less verbal and they aren't going to giggle and share gossip, well unless they are really effeminate gay men.* But they will spend time together enjoying and talking about a mutual hobby or interests like professional sports.
* I've had gay friends for years, and yes, they were all gossipy and catty, just like women.
This may come as a surprise to you, but not all gay men including myself are how you described. I have many male friends... both gay and straight, and most of us are just average guys and not effeminate, not that there’s anything wrong with that. Just saying.
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