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My advice is to limit your time with couples and with people whose major focus in life is finding a mate or getting laid. I find that spending too much time around couples always makes me feel less satisfied as a single. When I'm around a single person who's living a great life and doing meaningful and exciting things in their life, I just feel more excited myself about the positive aspects of being single.
I'm definitely not asexual. I know I'm straight. I am a guy stuck in a guy's body, and I like women, not men. In fact, I have a crush on my female friend. Because I don't have a sister and all my female cousins are overseas, I like girls who feel like they could be my sister. Although I am very particular about what kind of girls I like--mostly attracted to tomboys. Girly-girls have zero appeal to me.
I like my female friend because she is very tomboyish, and, like me, is an engineering major and has Asperger's. Plus, she's very simple and non-threatening, and reminds me of my favorite female cousin. She is straight, but she thinks a lot like a guy!
In your first post, which presented your desire to be single and happy, you also stated 'I am a conservative Christian, so no, porn is definitely not on the list. Nor is sex and cohabitation outside/before marriage.'
Ok, so you are a virgin then, right?
And you like boyish girls, right?
And the tomboy you have a 'crush' on is straight as well?
So there is romantic potential there! ... right?
Why not date her? Bring her some chocolates, go to a show... and kiss her if she'll agree?
You'll find out soon enough who plays for what team, and whether either of you wanna play ball at all.
Other than that, I got nothing....
P.S...Except there's no such thing as a guy stuck in a guys body or a gal stuck in a gals body.
We are all just individuals who inhabit the body nature bestowed upon us.
Why are people posting about how the OP should find a relationship? The post has NOTHING to do with the OP finding a relationship. It's about "ways to stay single and be happy". READ THE TITLE.
And if you are already in a relationship, please don't post on here. You don't have a clue. Take your opinions to the "Relationships" forum. Only singles should be posting on here.
Why are people posting about how the OP should find a relationship? The post has NOTHING to do with the OP finding a relationship. It's about "ways to stay single and be happy". READ THE TITLE.
And if you are already in a relationship, please don't post on here. You don't have a clue. Take your opinions to the "Relationships" forum. Only singles should be posting on here.
Thank you. I hate people who want to change the conversation that was established. They do it because they don't know anything about the subject and want to talk about what they know. It is so rude.
I agree with this also. I’m a geezer and my life experiences have led me to the belief that, if you cannot live a contented life alone, at peace on your own, you might not be as good a candidate for a long time relationship as those who NEED someone in their lives to feel complete. I remember 7 years I was alone, not dating or even socializing much. It was nice and I still have good memories of those times...but I’ve been with my wife now for almost 25 years.
Thank you. I hate people who want to change the conversation that was established. They do it because they don't know anything about the subject and want to talk about what they know. It is so rude.
Sometimes the subject of an original post is misguided or an impossibility or makes no sense. In which case it is necessary to correct and reframe the conversation.
Why are people posting about how the OP should find a relationship? The post has NOTHING to do with the OP finding a relationship. It's about "ways to stay single and be happy". READ THE TITLE.
And if you are already in a relationship, please don't post on here. You don't have a clue. Take your opinions to the "Relationships" forum. Only singles should be posting on here.
The OP should be open to finding and enjoying a mentally healthy, mutually beneficial romantic relationship, not closing himself off to the possibility of greatest happiness. Being single is a reality for some people, often due to their own personality defects. The solution is not to recommend being "militantly" single. The solution is to fix the personality problem that has one living in fear. Fear of relationships is a mental health issue, not a lifestyle decision.
Why are people posting about how the OP should find a relationship? The post has NOTHING to do with the OP finding a relationship. It's about "ways to stay single and be happy". READ THE TITLE.
And if you are already in a relationship, please don't post on here. You don't have a clue. Take your opinions to the "Relationships" forum. Only singles should be posting on here.
And wouldn't it be nice if those who have never dated, can't get a date, or make up lies about being in relationships would not post in the relationships forum. Unfortunately that's not how it works.
Thank you. I hate people who want to change the conversation that was established. They do it because they don't know anything about the subject and want to talk about what they know. It is so rude.
I hope you were not referring to me, as I have gone solo more often than not, and quite happily.
But I never CHOSE to crush on someone, nor fell in love with premeditation.
It happens of it's own accord, unexpectedly and often without obvious reason.
I responded to the OP with a suggestion to explore further his stated 'crush', while at the same time his professed desire for a happy singlehood. One can have both, but not at the same time.
Well, OP, which is it?
Are you interested in pursuing this crush, wherever it might lead?
Or do you want it to remain unfulfilled and unrequited?
Are you completely honest with yourself, or are you fearful of rejection?
You may find inaction acceptable, or even preferable for reasons known only to you.
And for the record, are you happy or not?
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