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Old 04-19-2018, 07:38 AM
 
Location: TN/NC
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I personally don't agree with just laying in front of the TV addled. A lot of people may not be physically able to do a lot, but most can do better than that.
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Old 04-19-2018, 08:03 AM
 
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Thanking my lucky stars, I am still very active at 76 and in good health. Have a couple age related problems that I follow my Drs advice and take very few meds. I have sympathy for the ones who are devastated with health issues that prohibits them from "getting around" or from totally being involved in life.

OTOH hubby is a "lazyboy potato". Lays reclined watching tv and his smart phone all day, between naps. He mostly just gets up for meals and bathroom. He has grown old and feeble on purpose since he retired instead of taking up a hobby, watching his food intake, and not being involved in our very large close knit family that he mostly ignores when they come.
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Old 04-19-2018, 08:11 AM
 
Location: New York
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For years before he retired, my late step father always talked about how he looked forward to retirement. When asked what he planned to do during retirement, he always answered 'Sit in my chair.' After a lifetime of combined military and union work, to him, that was the greatest possible thing one could do to enjoy retirement.

And that's exactly what he did, with little exception, until the day he died.
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Old 04-19-2018, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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Sitting around all day? Not my dad and he turns 80 at the end of the month.

Since retiring in 2002:

he has published two books.

He builds things in his wood shop.

Carves intricate items like custom wood spoons, wood games, he has a zoo of animals carved from wood.

He remodeled my sisters home.

My dad is constantly busy as is my mom. She is also in her late 70's. She teaches people how to bake, make pizza, cakes and cookies all for fun. I think she should charge for that but she loves doing it.

My parents work out in there home gym each day. They have an awesome life and continue to accomplish a lot of things. Both are working on their genealogy as well.
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Old 04-19-2018, 09:01 AM
 
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The thing is the people like this really seem to enjoy sitting around dong nothing. My parents watched more TV than I ever did as a kid and they had always told me to shut it off, it's bad for my eyes. lol. They were not depressed just loving being couch potatoes together. It kills me because they were such cool cats in their younger years and now I have to remember them staring at Jerry Springer. They passed away with much unfinished business dumped on me as they stopped being responsible adults some time in the 1990s.

I suppose as long as someone is taking care of their responsibilities, let them sit around, but if sloth becomes their whole life and they let important things slide it is a problem. It isn't fair to a spouse if one of them checks out and dumps everything on the other.
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Old 04-19-2018, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Yakima yes, an apartment!
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My father is like this. Always been like this, now that he’s retired, it’s even worse. He just sits around the house, maybe watching a bit of t.v. or playing around with his smartphone. I’d be bored outta of my mind just sitting around and just daydreaming to pass time. I don’t understand how someone not realize there’s more to life than just sitting around everyday
You sound like my Mother (GBHS) she didn't have her eardrum pop till we were on the concourse after coming back from Reno. Years later she retired at 70 due to the inner ear issue. Then 3 years later she told me of an operation that could fix it.

I said "So what would you do if they did?"

"Go back to work!" she replied...She never did and passed away at 84....
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Old 04-19-2018, 12:10 PM
 
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So is the op home all day doing nothing also? Or is the op doing a different kind of nothing
I know she goes out drinking on her disability check fairly regularly... that's a little better than nothing I guess.

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Old 04-19-2018, 12:52 PM
 
Location: planet earth
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Why is it that every other animal (mammal) is not expected to "do" anything? They are allowed to just exist. But not humans. Humans MUST PRODUCE!
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Old 04-19-2018, 01:01 PM
 
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Why is it that every other animal (mammal) is not expected to "do" anything? They are allowed to just exist. But not humans. Humans MUST PRODUCE!
I expect a lot from my pets so I'm not sure what you're talking about. They don't just "sit around." The cats take care of mice and my dog is in charge of keeping deer, raccoons and other dogs off my land, as well as informing me when the UPS man arrives. She also cleans up cat vomit.
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Old 04-19-2018, 03:06 PM
 
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I don't get it either.
My best friend from college is approximately the same age as I am. My day typically includes ~2 miles of power-walking, in addition to yard work and work around the house. His typical day consists of lying on the sofa for most of the day and the night, while watching videos and reading.

My health is excellent, as is my memory, while his health is... compromised... and his memory and mental acuity are both clearly failing. While I realize that activity levels are not the only factor in the disparity between his health and mine, surely his almost total lack of physical exertion must play a role in his physical and mental decline.

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