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I have a friend who used to work at a department store. One Christmas a woman got caught stealing very expensive items and her excuse was she couldn't afford to pay for Christmas gifts because she'd just bought a horse. I think the level of entitlement in our society is so off the charts, people just take care of their wants first and expect everyone else to foot the bill for the rest.
Did she really expect anyone to feel sorry for her? A lot of people try to milk sympathy around the Christmas holidays. Christmas gift charities are over burdened that time of year.
You're probably feeling "resentful" because you feel obligated (she's a friend) to donate.
You shouldn't though...it's your choice.
I personally would never "donate" monies for a school trip. I always found them very discriminatory towards the poorer children in the school who couldn't afford it.
I feel there should be NO trip, unless ALL the children can go. The school class should do some fund raising of their own so that the WHOLE CLASS can be included in their venture.
It's wrong that a child should need money to be included in class activity...that's not fair, and certainly not equal....not how a public school should be run.
I'd be embarrassed asking for charity like that....different strokes for different folks I guess.
I'd rather give the money to someone who really NEEDS it...I see a lot of folk like that every day.
I have a friend that I absolutely adore. We have known each other for 30 years.
She and her husband both have college degrees. They have four kids and she is a SAHM. He has a job that doesn't pay very well, but it's very fulfilling and helps the community.
Her dad helps them out a lot, flying them out for visits, buying them a car, etc.
I have now received the third GoFundMe for something to do with their kids. It is a fundraiser so one of their kids can go on a school trip.
I feel bad thinking this way, but I have always had a full time job and paid for this kind of thing with my own money for my kids. I kind of feel resentful that she feels like it's okay to stay home and basically beg friends and family for anything she wants.
I know I shouldn't be petty like this and I should just donate as it's for her kids and they didn't ask for this situation.
Am I wrong for this feeling of resentment?
I wouldn't donate either. There are these things people can get called jobs and they pay you. It's great. Your friend should try it.
Absolutely not. This is emotional blackmail and people should feel ashamed and embarrassed to be grown adults and still rely on their parents and friends to pay for their expenses. GoFundMe isn't intended to give people better lives than they are willing to work for and earn. If she's CHOOSING to stay home and not work then one of the consequences is that their kids don't get to do everything they want. Why have so many children if you can't afford to give them the lifestyle you want them to have? I was a SAHM for 17 years. The difference was that my husband earns enough for me to make that choice. But there were many sacrifices we made in return for that opportunity.
Is the kid dying of leukemia? Then sure, it's ok to ask (not expect) others to help you out. But the kid wants to go on a field trip to Disney World and you can't afford it? Then Mama needs to get a part time job and work to earn that money while the kids are in school. Or if the kids are old enough to work, they can earn it themselves or not go.
This "gimme gimme gimme" attitude that is becoming pervasive in our society is sickening. I've seen GoFundMe for honeymoons, weddings, vacations, study abroad, travel, foreign adoption expenses, house renovation, want to buy a home, etc. Whatever happened to working or going without? Natural and logical consequences of your own life choices? This post really makes me angry.
I'm soo burnt out on everyone asking for money on GO FUND ME campaigns.
Isn't that what savings accounts and Life Insurance policies are for, ect.? .
Any natural disaster shouldn't entitle you to a GO FUND ME.
Could be because there are a lot of people who can't afford a savings account or life insurance. There's usually quite a few bills to take care of (rent, food, utilities, gas, etc.) that comes out of their paycheck before they can make it to the bank to open a savings account. My wife has her Christmas Club taken out by payroll deduction because, if she had to go to the bank to put money in it, that money would be used on something for the house.
Could be because there are a lot of people who can't afford a savings account or life insurance. There's usually quite a few bills to take care of (rent, food, utilities, gas, etc.) that comes out of their paycheck before they can make it to the bank to open a savings account. My wife has her Christmas Club taken out by payroll deduction because, if she had to go to the bank to put money in it, that money would be used on something for the house.
Had to chuckle. I haven't heard of a Christmas Club in 60 years, when my parents had one.
I think it's gotten to a point where folks don't expect to even pay for funerals unless the person does of old age. If it's an accident or a crime victim guaranteed there will be a GoFundMe.
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