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I don't know that "Mr. France" is any kind of sugar daddy at all. But he does seem to be helping Belle expand her horizons and think of new possibilities for herself. THAT is so valuable and the fact that OP is taking that and running is fantastic.
Keep going, Belle! Keep your eyes and mind open and keep learning what you like and what you're good at!
Truly wasn't being mean. I understand she has a cheering section and that's great but I think interjecting some realism isn't bad. Cheering won't do any good if she's stranded for a ride to college, stranded in a foreign country or the 9 million other things that could occur in life when you rely on others especially coming from her upbringing.
She said he was paying her rent and other things...didn't use the term "sugar daddy" but someone who won't commit, sleeps with other people yet pays the bills?
I don't know that "Mr. France" is any kind of sugar daddy at all. But he does seem to be helping Belle expand her horizons and think of new possibilities for herself. THAT is so valuable and the fact that OP is taking that and running is fantastic.
Keep going, Belle! Keep your eyes and mind open and keep learning what you like and what you're good at!
and use condoms...you forgot to add that little tidbit to your "she's living her best life" speech.
The last thing this kid needs is a child or an STD...so I suggest the pill AND a condom.
I'm sorry, but Belle has zero intentions of going to college. If she really serious about it, she would've already been enrolled and if Mr. Paris is so supportive of her, he would've made sure she made it to her appointment.
He is a sugar daddy....and he wants her poor and naive...easier to take advantage of.
Truly wasn't being mean. I understand she has a cheering section and that's great but I think interjecting some realism isn't bad. Cheering won't do any good if she's stranded for a ride to college, stranded in a foreign country or the 9 million other things that could occur in life when you rely on others especially coming from her upbringing.
She said he was paying her rent and other things...didn't use the term "sugar daddy" but someone who won't commit, sleeps with other people yet pays the bills?
ding ding ding...we have a winner...he is a Sugar Daddy for sure. She's just too immature and naive to see that.
Yes that' was pretty obvious all along, but the OP always manages to 'inspire' some people for awhile.
Agreed.
I've seen dozens of people like the OP, and all they manage to do in the end is burn through lots of goodwill and help given to them by others. Hope I'm wrong, though, but I stopped buying into this sort of dynamic as soon as I recognized it clearly.
The problem is that Belle doesn't think of him as a sugar daddy. He is paying her rent and other bills, whisking her off on romantic trips just because he's 'nice'. If he sleeps with other people (can she do likewise?) and won't commit to her, he's not 'nice'.
Reality will rear its' head at some point and that is why people should encourage her to do this on her own if she really, really wants to go to school and beyond. She should not be dependent on a man who won't commit to her when making her college plans- there should be no I can't get too class because Mr. France can't drive me or hasn't paid my tuition. She should be figuring out ways to get herself to school and how she will pay for it. It might be nice if Mr. France paid for somethings but she shouldn't have to rely on it.
Becoming a lawyer or paralegal is a long hard road. It's not easy slogging through coursework and exams- you have to be committed. It can seem overwhelming but it is more manageable if you break it down into small steps. Has she scheduled an interview at this particular college or any other community college in the area? Has she taken note of the requirements, deadlines. etc? It's nice that Mr. France has been encouraging but she's not taking it to the next level.
The problem is that Belle doesn't think of him as a sugar daddy. He is paying her rent and other bills, whisking her off on romantic trips just because he's 'nice'. If he sleeps with other people (can she do likewise?) and won't commit to her, he's not 'nice'.
Reality will rear its' head at some point and that is why people should encourage her to do this on her own if she really, really wants to go to school and beyond. She should not be dependent on a man who won't commit to her when making her college plans- there should be no I can't get too class because Mr. France can't drive me or hasn't paid my tuition. She should be figuring out ways to get herself to school and how she will pay for it. It might be nice if Mr. France paid for somethings but she shouldn't have to rely on it.
Becoming a lawyer or paralegal is a long hard road. It's not easy slogging through coursework and exams- you have to be committed. It can seem overwhelming but it is more manageable if you break it down into small steps. Has she scheduled an interview at this particular college or any other community college in the area? Has she taken note of the requirements, deadlines. etc? It's nice that Mr. France has been encouraging but she's not taking it to the next level.
Please, MODS, please - can you just close this thread now as it has gone in circles for 42 pages and we have the same people making the same snide comments again and again and again? Hasn't it gone off topic enough?
If the OP would like specific advice on her education or future plans, she can make a new thread (and I do consider myself in the camp of wishing her the best). Every time I visit this thread it's the same comments over and over, and I just don't think it's helpful to the OP or anyone at this point. I've hesitated to comment and have this rise to the top of the forum, but it was near the top today anyway.
Please. Belle, if you read this, maybe you can ask the mods to close it yourself. It's just not going anywhere that's healthy or helpful.
(Two comments I've held back, again in the interest of not 'bumping' this somewhat toxic thread: Belle, work towards your dream of becoming a paralegal or lawyer, but don't be afraid to keep your options open. You said at one point that you want to help families. There are several different ways you could do this, career-wise. But it's a very noble reason to want to further your education, and I think you, Belle, could do a lot of good in this world, especially with your 'hard knocks' background. Whether in the legal field, or education, or social services. "Why not you", indeed.
Second comment: be wary of accepting too much outside help in going for your goals. To put it another way, don't ever let one person hold too much power over your ability to continue on your journey. I've been there, and it's not fun to find out on the last day tuition is due that the 'purse string holder' has decided to wield a power trip over you (last time I relied on that person, a blood relative, for so much as a glass of water). Have a back up plan. And you'll always feel a sense of accomplishment over having made it on your own. You're going to take some more knocks in life, but always keep learning and growing from those experiences).
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