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Don't get me wrong, I am so in love with them both that I'm ecstatic that he and she are getting married!
He is so cute and tame that if you don't pay attention you won't notice he is a hulk whose physique is not obvious unless you check him out. He appears meek (and I have met very few such darling men) but if you check him out babe x-ray he's so masculine, and yet he's so sensitive I would chase him if he wasn't my BFF's boyfriend.
My BFF is older than him (and me) but she's very sexy too! I can't imagine a better suited couple than the two of them. (A few years, no big deal.)
I got invited to their wedding, and RSVP'd but now I realize I've gotten a few texts from both, but I haven't seen them since 2017 even though I've invited them to double date, and I've asked to visit them without company. I would dearly love to double date, but they have never accepted. (I'm single and in varying relationships.)
I have heard almost nothing from my friends this year, including ignored phone calls and texts to both.
I know this is not the usual wedding gift scam, my friends are better than that. Yet I'm uncomfortable that I have no good outfits to wear (my little black dress ate it a dozen years ago) and I feel that I would like to get out of this without losing friends. I'm sure they will be friends again after the ceremony...
... but how do I get out of attending now that I sent my RSVP? Without losing them as dear friends?
Don't get me wrong, I am so in love with them both that I'm ecstatic that he and she are getting married!
He is so cute and tame that if you don't pay attention you won't notice he is a hulk whose physique is not obvious unless you check him out. He appears meek (and I have met very few such darling men) but if you check him out babe x-ray he's so masculine, and yet he's so sensitive I would chase him if he wasn't my BFF's boyfriend.
My BFF is older than him (and me) but she's very sexy too! I can't imagine a better suited couple than the two of them. (A few years, no big deal.)
I got invited to their wedding, and RSVP'd but now I realize I've gotten a few texts from both, but I haven't seen them since 2017 even though I've invited them to double date, and I've asked to visit them without company. I would dearly love to double date, but they have never accepted. (I'm single and in varying relationships.)
I have heard almost nothing from my friends this year, including ignored phone calls and texts to both.
I know this is not the usual wedding gift scam, my friends are better than that. Yet I'm uncomfortable that I have no good outfits to wear (my little black dress ate it a dozen years ago) and I feel that I would like to get out of this without losing friends. I'm sure they will be friends again after the ceremony...
... but how do I get out of attending now that I sent my RSVP? Without losing them as dear friends?
Well ... uh ... you haven't even seen them since last year, and they are basically not responding to your messages.
When is the wedding? If you sent another RSVP message saying that something has come up and you can't attend, they will get over it.
But ... how hard is it to buy a new dress for the wedding of your (supposed) BFFs??? Is there something else going on?
I got invited to their wedding, and RSVP'd but now I realize I've gotten a few texts from both, but I haven't seen them since 2017 even though I've invited them to double date, and I've asked to visit them without company. I would dearly love to double date, but they have never accepted. (I'm single and in varying relationships.)
I have heard almost nothing from my friends this year, including ignored phone calls and texts to both.
I know this is not the usual wedding gift scam, my friends are better than that. Yet I'm uncomfortable that I have no good outfits to wear (my little black dress ate it a dozen years ago) and I feel that I would like to get out of this without losing friends. I'm sure they will be friends again after the ceremony...
... but how do I get out of attending now that I sent my RSVP? Without losing them as dear friends?
You call them dear friends but say they didn't return phone calls or texts. What I'm thinking is, they invited many people, some whom they haven't seen in a while (which is totally normal, btw) and they wouldn't care that much if you did not go. Since you said you haven't seen them since 2017.
People get busy... I have many people I care about that we hardly get together with any more... it happens. Doesn't mean they aren't still important to us.
I am an introvert who hates to shop and doesn't love big gatherings... but even I could figure out how to get a new dress to wear if one of them was getting married.
This is how it goes sometimes... when we were young, we had time to just hang out and socialize... when we get older, we end up seeing each other every few years at occasional parties... weddings, graduations, showers, and eventually, funerals. That's life.
The way you described him, I'm wondering if there was an attraction for him when you were with both of them and it showed, and they both may have felt uncomfortable with that?
The way you described him, I'm wondering if there was an attraction for him when you were with both of them and it showed, and they both may have felt uncomfortable with that?
Just tell them that you can’t emotionally handle being there & you do not want your fragile emotional state to detract from their special day. Cover any costs that might have occurred from you breaking the RSVP. Next time, RSVP no indicating your intention not to attend if you go too long without regular contact.
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