Why is it that nobody in any of my social circles invites me to anything nor do they accept my invites?

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by redguitar77111

By the way, I may have some aspects of Asperger's.

Is this your diagnosis? You seem unclear. Are you sure you have received coaching? Did it cover techniques for making and keeping friends? Did you learn anything from it?

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Is this your diagnosis? You seem unclear. Are you sure you have received coaching? Did it cover techniques for making and keeping friends? Did you learn anything from it?

Many neuro-typical people also aren't good at making friends. Just something I've noticed.

[thinkalot]

Thinking you are part of a group (social circle) when you are not probably doesn't help. People in said group not accepting your invitations should have shown you that. Start your own group. You only need 1 to start.


You seem to post quite a bit about politics. I hope you never bring that up in a group unless it's a political group.

[bpollen]

Originally Posted by redguitar77111

I know they do things with each other, but never with me. It can't just me a certain social circle being mean because all my social circles do this.

I don't get asked to many events. This sometimes hurts my feelings, but I know why I don't get asked. It's because I'm not a reliable attendee at events. I'm not fond of parties & such, esp if there are a lot of couples (I'm single). I'm somewhat of a hermit, and shy in crowds, although I like people a lot and people find me funny & likable. I have a good time after I get there, usually, but it's hard to make myself go. So I understand why I don't get a second invite. As confidant as other people feel, I'm sure it hurts their feelings when someone turns them down.

I do better with a small lunch crowd. Or going to the movies with a couple of friends. I'm much more comfortable with that.

Do you ever turn down an invite? It only takes once. Or have you gone before, but turned up way late, or got into an argument? Anything that they would not want to experience again?

Another reason might be if it's all couples, and you are not a couple. Or vice versa.

But I think you should just ask someone quietly...someone you know very well, who you think has the guts to hurt your feelings. Not many people can do that. Yu can only ask one; otherwise, word will get around that you're begging to get an invite.

Finally, if there's not a good reason not to include you in their gatherings, you have to face the fact that they are not your friends. They are more like casual acquaintances.

[adjusterjack]

Originally Posted by redguitar77111

I know they do things with each other, but never with me. It can't just me a certain social circle being mean because all my social circles do this.

They don't like you?