If There Would Be NO Negative Consequences Would You Tell People Off (Could Go Back to Infancy)? (person, bitterness)

[nobodysbusiness]

If you had a chance, and there would be NO NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES - NOTHING - would you "tell off those who have "done you wrong" and hurt you?"

I would LOVE TO!

It would be such a relief to say what is on your mind with no negative consequences.

I could probably come up with a good ten-maybe a hundred (who knows?) people I could give a "what for."

[SeanTomWX]

The key is to hide your disguise your insults as compliments. Let them figure them out!

[silibran]

I would not. I would never want to add to the world’s anger and bitterness.

And I would not feel relief after doing so. I’d feel dirty and ashamed.

But I would keep my distance from people who do not treat me well.

[nobodysbusiness]

Originally Posted by silibran

I would not. I would never want to add to the world’s anger and bitterness.

And I would not feel relief after doing so. I’d feel dirty and ashamed.

But I would keep my distance from people who do not treat me well.

You must have misunderstood: THERE WOULD BE NO NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES - NONE - meaning no one would get hurt, there would be no anger or bitterness, nothing.

[Sydney123]

Originally Posted by SeanTomWX

The key is to hide your disguise your insults as compliments. Let them figure them out!

Like.... Hey, for a fat girl... you don’t sweat bad.

[nobodysbusiness]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

Like.... Hey, for a fat girl... you don’t sweat bad.

I'm not talking about being rude to people and insulting them, but just saying what you could not otherwise say to people - like "you were a real jerk," "you hurt me when you said, x, y, z" or "when you did (this or that)."

[SeanTomWX]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

Like.... Hey, for a fat girl... you don’t sweat bad.

"That's a very nice key chain, I had no idea you afford something like that"

[Sydney123]

Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness

I'm not talking about being rude to people and insulting them, but just saying what you could not otherwise say to people - like "you were a real jerk," "you hurt me when you said, x, y, z" or "when you did (this or that)."

I was joking with the person I quoted, but since you brought it up. I’d never be intentionally rude to someone, but I will most definitely stand up for myself. I am not a door mat and if someone wrongs me... I am going to let them know that it’s not ok, and let the chips fall where they may.

[SeanTomWX]

Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness

I'm not talking about being rude to people and insulting them, but just saying what you could not otherwise say to people - like "you were a real jerk," "you hurt me when you said, x, y, z" or "when you did (this or that)."

Ah. I've never really had a problem saying that either. I think because I'm so comfortable being sarcastic with people, I'm also comfortable with being honest with them. imo, that's the key. Just be honest with how you feel. There's no shame in saying, "hey man, you know when you said that thing about ____, it kind of struck a nerve with me."

[elyn02]

It's hard to play along with the rules of the topic. Telling somebody off for me usually means unresolved conflict. It is meant to have a consequence.