My friend's husband is a sex offender (wife, girlfriend, guilty)
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With my monthly credit report, I also get updates on local sex offenders that have been registered in my immediate area. This month, a familiar name popped up. It's the same name as my friend's husband, however, her husband has a super common name, so I though it might be coincidence. The thing is that they live right by me, so I decided to look into more details.
When I expanded the registrant's profile it was surely him. It was his exact same birthdate and the address they live in. I looked at what the offense said and it said "child pornography/film/photos". It looks like he was registered two months ago, and they just had a baby (their first) a month ago.
Ugh. I am not even sure what to do? It sounds like a serious charge, but how serious if he's not in jail? She has been posting pictures of them together with the baby, and I just talked to her a few days ago. Surely she must know?
I am not even sure what to do? Do I ask or bring it up? In a way If he did commit this, how can I even be around him anymore? She is a great friend, but if she he did something serious and is looking the other way how can I also be friends with her? This is just also bizarre, and I am not sure how to approach this.
There was a child pornography sting recently that caught dozens of men in my area, including some I never ever would have suspected. I'm fairly certain your friend knows. You can look it up online: possession of photos, distribution of photos, or creation of photos. For a first offense, and if it's just possession, he probably got off pretty easily.
...I think this might not be your business... Maybe you can subtly ask if smt. is going on, if she is aware of smt., but of the answer comes negative - being on your place, I would simply forget all this. If in future there would be some problems between them two and this is related, then I might start talking about this, but I will not be the first person harming my friend's relationship.
There was a child pornography sting recently that caught dozens of men in my area, including some I never ever would have suspected. I'm fairly certain your friend knows. You can look it up online: possession of photos, distribution of photos, or creation of photos. For a first offense, and if it's just possession, he probably got off pretty easily.
Okay thanks for this info as I did extra research, this actually clears things up a bit and I am breathing a little easier. Looks like when he was 18 is when he was officially charged, not two months ago. It's two months ago that he appeared in my area, but after looking at the state's official website, the crime was committed when he was 18, and the victim was 17, so this makes more sense. That was almost a good 15 years ago too. The state has that has being his last (and only) offense.
I feel a little better now, as that situation makes more "sense". Still it's not a good thing, but it takes away from me thinking he was a possible child molester or something of that nature.
Okay thanks for this info as I did extra research, this actually clears things up a bit and I am breathing a little easier. Looks like when he was 18 is when he was officially charged, not two months ago. It's two months ago that he appeared in my area, but after looking at the state's official website, the crime was committed when he was 18, and the victim was 17, so this makes more sense. That was almost a good 15 years ago too. The state has that has being his last (and only) offense.
I feel a little better now, as that situation makes more "sense". Still it's not a good thing, but it takes away from me thinking he was a possible child molester or something of that nature.
Thanks for the update. I was suspecting that it was something like that (an 18 year old adult having "sexy photographs" of his one year younger, but still legally a child, GF).
So, the likely scenario is; His girlfriend sent him a topless picture, or a naked picture, and because she was 17, she was still a minor. Right?
You're not going to let that get in the way of your friendship, right?
You know, I believe that some states (now) have modified some of the sex offender laws, taking into effect the age differences in these type of situations, but maybe way back when, when he was 18, the laws had not been modified.
I am FB friends with a young woman (well, younger than me) who was sexually molested often, by the husband of another friend of mine.
I can not reconcile what he did, and thus I can't stand to even look at him. And so that friendship has drifted away. Kind of too bad. The wife was a really good friend to me back in the day.
Just an FYI 'child pornography/film/photos' label could also be placed on someone who, when underaged, sent or received a nude selfie from a partner. In my job, I have dealt with a young man who was charged with possession of incident images after he took pics of his member (when he was still a teen) and never deleted it off his phone.
And this is why these registries are broken, IMO. Don't know what state OP is in, but here in SC.. There is no getting off the registry.. It's for life. Even a pardon doesn't remove you from it.
Minors go on the list. for life.
Prosecutors use the registry to obtain guilty pleas. There was a case where a high school student swiped his teachers phone. The teacher had nude images of herself on it. The student sent those images out. The prosecution charged him with an offense that would land him on the registry in order to get him to plead out to a reduced charge that wouldn't put him on the registry. Peeing outside can technically land you on the registry if you have a solicitor who wants to put you on it.
And, as OP shows.. Most people just see someone on the registry and jump to conclusions. Thankfully, OP did some due diligence and dug into it to find out exactly what happened.
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