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My parents have been married for 40 years. My brothers and I have always known their marriage was a sham even though from the outside it all looked good. They never really argued (at least in front of us) and we've never witness them being openly disrespectful towards each other.
We are much closer to our mother, who basically took care of everything when we were young. My father was always the distant type, only asking on occasion if we needed something and sort of leading in his own life. They are too completely different people and have always looked more like business partners than a couple. They have totally different interests and spend loads of time apart.
Even though I was not aware of that when I was a child, I've always suspected my father had other relationships since my teens. For a period I would randomly see him exchanging messages with other women (but he didn't notice I saw it).
Well, last Friday I happened to find him in a restaurant having dinner with another woman. Even though I already knew it, it came as sort of a shock. They were just talking but I'm sure she wasn't a "friend".
Of course it''s not my place to meddle into their marriage but when I first saw him after that event, I just couldn't look at him the same way anymore. We don't have much of a close relationship but still, he's my father.
Not really asking a question here, just trying to vent a little.
My DIL found out that her father has another family in a different state, while still married to her mother. It is what it is. In that case, we think her mom stays married for financial reasons.
I wouldn't necessarily consider it a "sham." It's an arrangement that appears to be working for them or they would have changed it. Your mom could have outside interests, too.
My parents have been married for 40 years. My brothers and I have always known their marriage was a sham even though from the outside it all looked good. They never really argued (at least in front of us) and we've never witness them being openly disrespectful towards each other.
We are much closer to our mother, who basically took care of everything when we were young. My father was always the distant type, only asking on occasion if we needed something and sort of leading in his own life. They are too completely different people and have always looked more like business partners than a couple. They have totally different interests and spend loads of time apart.
Even though I was not aware of that when I was a child, I've always suspected my father had other relationships since my teens. For a period I would randomly see him exchanging messages with other women (but he didn't notice I saw it).
Well, last Friday I happened to find him in a restaurant having dinner with another woman. Even though I already knew it, it came as sort of a shock. They were just talking but I'm sure she wasn't a "friend".
Of course it''s not my place to meddle into their marriage but when I first saw him after that event, I just couldn't look at him the same way anymore. We don't have much of a close relationship but still, he's my father.
Not really asking a question here, just trying to vent a little.
I wouldn't necessarily consider it a "sham." It's an arrangement that appears to be working for them or they would have changed it. Your mom could have outside interests, too.
Where was he snooping? He said he would randomly see his father exchanging messages with various women. That's not snooping.
He walked into a restaurant and saw his father dining with a woman. That's not snooping.
The son (OP) IS making some assumptions, which MIGHT be wrong...but he's not snooping.
"I randomly see him exchanging messages" - hello Junior who I do not have interaction with - here is my text/email traffic?
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