Facebook In-Law Drama HELP?

[bpollen]

Never apologize for something you did that wasn't wrong. That only feeds into the argument that what you did was wrong. (Of course, if you did do something wrong, it is appropriate to admit the mistake, if it was a mistake & you truly regret it.)

You can't control how others behave and react to you. You are not God.

I wouldn't lose any sleep over your husband & his father's relationship. You have no control over that, and you can't fix it. Beyond that, I cannot say, because you didn't provide enough information about that. My guess is that they have an unhealthy relationship, anyway, or this thing wouldn't have blown up between them.

Explain on FB that all you did was "like" a positive message by someone about his/her parents, and that you do not apologize for that, & if anyone doesn't like that, maybe they should stop reading your FB account.

Then stop participating in FB in that way. I have a FB account, but have a msg on my face page saying, "I'm sorry, but I don't respond to friend requests. I'm on FB only to participate in some groups." You might consider that. FB is addictive. You can email family members w/pics and information, if you want.

[blueherons]

They are crazy.

You've done nothing wrong.

You apologized.

Move on and ignore them.

[Kim in FL]

Originally Posted by Lbjen

To be clear, you liking a comment is not grounds for an entire family to squabble like this. You’re just an easy target. The answer here is to unfriend every single one of your husband’s family and set your privacy settings so that they can’t stalk your page. If they want to see your children they can visit them or even ask for photos if that’s all they want. That’s the only way to stay out of any future drama. The current situation has nothing to do with you either so stay out of that also.

This this and this again. There are family members I don’t have on fb for a reason.

These people sound like loons and belong back in middle school

[thinkalot]

Facebook is what you make of it. I do not have relatives, coworkers, classmates, or people I don't know as friends.

I have never sent a friend request. My friends are about 1/3 of the people that sent me one.

I mostly use it for groups and Words With Friends and an occasional message.

[Debsi]

This is not a Facebook problem, it’s an in-law problem. They sound crazy.

[silibran]

You have apologized. You had no idea about whatever feud was going on. Leave it alone.

Now, get your own FB account and include your family and friends, but exclude the quarreling in-laws.

[silibran]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. —-Maya Angelou

[NY Annie]

I am friends with 1 of my stepdaughters and have blocked the other. I am friends with my stepson but not his mother. My sons have chosen to keep their business off facebook. Other family is hit or miss. Friends, however, communicate on FB mostly. Since I cannot hear on the phone, FB is a great way to communicate and there's always messenger for privacy. We have a group of friends and we have a closed, secret group when we want to communicate to all - which we did recently when one in the group was in CCU and had heart surgery. At my age, I don't care if you know I was at such and such a restaurant and I never post info about vacations or trips.


If you cause drama, I will simply unfollow. If that doesn't do the trick, byeeee, unfriended and blocked. It's not my circus and I refuse to play your game (which is why one stepdaughter is on that list).

[Edvard]

How can people in this day and age still think that Facebook is real? Why take it seriously? It's as fake as it gets, like Twitter or the news, it's just bandwidth. It's not real life. It's someone sending a signal, that's all it is.